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writes:Iv been on 2 dates now and got turned down by both girls when I ask them if they want to meet up again.Does this get any easier?I came out of a long time relationship a while ago and trying to get back into things but it seems SO HARD!im doing ok on the dates i think and th girls seem to be positive but then when it comes to a 2nd date, its a no or i just havent heard from 1.and is it the more the dates you have the less you become keen on them cos iv really liked these 2 and have been really gutted when iv been turned downany advise would be goodthanks Reply to this Question
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reader, SonOfMan  +, writes (27 January 2012):
 I think if you read into it too much you will bring yourself down. Look at the other side of it, you may have saved yourself a lot of hassle from getting to know someone you are not compatible with.
Things always happen for a reason, we just have to focus on the reason which will make us better people. Whatever the reason why these girls weren't keen on a second date, the main thing is you now have more time to work on the things which can improve you as a person.
Did you seem nervous? Were you too forward or keen? Too quiet? Did it just seem like you were after sex? How did you present yourself? Look at it from their point of view...try to work out any negative aspects of yourself that you may have portrayed and maybe work on them if you think they may hinder you in the future.
It could simply be that they just didn't like you. Just like there may be girls out there with characteristics you don't like. There are many factors that contribute to compatibility but the best advice I can give is to be yourself.
Portray a sense of confidence, self belief and enjoy yourself. Be excited about the possibility of meeting someone and starting fresh and just go with the flow.
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