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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 11 months and 5 days. So far eveything is okay but, the past months, I've been so mean to him and childish. I tried breaking up with him but he always asks why and doesn't leave me alone and I always end up going back out with him, giving him another chance.I'm 16 years old and in love. Are relationships supposed to have a little bit of drama?In the other hand the reason I can't leave him is because he was my first of everything. First "make-out" guy, first guy I ever had sex with, and he was the first guy who ever respected who I am, every other guy just wants to get in my pants. He's sweet, he comes to my work place and brings me roses, candy, huge stuffed bears, but after that he spoiled me way too much. and I'm afraid, I'm afraid that if I get very childish and getting mad at him for no apparent reason, he might leave. I asked all my friends about it and they said I have him by the leash. I don't want that, please help, do you think my relationship will last? Reply to this Question
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reader, shoe_lover  +, writes (8 September 2007):
 try explaining why you feel like it?? he seems to want you maybe you just want the drama ?But no your relationship will last if you both want it to and can sougth out problems. comunication is the key
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reader, kindhart03 +, writes (8 September 2007):
 hiya ,you sound really sweet and so does your boyfriend ,take it from me it isnt easy finding a good man at any age (no offence any guys out there )im 36 ,in fell in love with a kind man like your boyfriend ,your both very young but if you truley love this guy keep hold of him with all youve got ,if he treats you with kindness and respect treat him the same way and you will never go wrong,you say you can be mean and childish with him sometimes ,but i bet you feel sorry for him after when you watch his face drop dont you? i think you are testing him trying to provoke another side to him for a bit of excitment because he sounds like he will do anything for you,woman also like to be treated mean sometimes it keeps us on our toes and turns us on ,were so complicated arnt we? my guess is he wont leave you unless you really push the issue ,you dont want to loose that one ,belive me it will devestate you if he walks .
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2007): It will last if you want to make it last. That applies to anything. Just because you have some power in controlling the fate of things doesn't mean that it is the best option for you. But if you want it to last you can do that.
On the bit about drama. A little drama is ok, I guess? I personally get no satisfaction whatsoever in having drama for the sake of drama with bf's. I have gotten along GREAT with alot of my bf's without all the drama and I too "had them by the leash." You do not need drama for a guy to love you and to do anything for you.
But be wise about your actions. Because what goes around comes around. (I have seen this happen to people who were just like you). I am not saying don't be a strong woman. And it's good that you have control of this situation and you can get what you want. But there is no need for you to be mean for the sake of being mean.
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reader, Skeez +, writes (8 September 2007):
 Yes your relationship can last. but you never mentioned why your being childish and getting mad at him. what for? is he doing somehting you dont like?If he is then talk to him. And yes most relationships have there drama now and again. Me and my byfriend had a huuuuuge issue after 4 months when he cheated on me. and now and again weve had issues where i have wanted to break up with him.But no your relationship will last if you both want it to and can sougth out problems.And being angry at your partner for no important reasons will probably drive him away so tell him your sorry and you dnt mean to be so angry at him and learn to stop.
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