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writes:I'm 24, straight and I think i have a slight crush on another female colleague who is about my age and also straight. We work very closely together and we get along great, often having lunch together, sometimes just the two of us. I've found myself thinking about her more and more, which is confusing me a lot.Has anyone else felt like this? I have had 'girl crushes' before but i thought i would've grown out of this by now! Do you think i should experiment?
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (7 December 2008):
 You're a mature adult and as such you should feel free to explore your sexuality. But I don't think experimenting with your colleague is a good idea, for some of the same reasons that heterosexual relationships between coworkers aren't always a good idea.
For one thing, you don't know that she is interested in you or even that she is interested in any woman. If you broach the subject of a lesbian encounter with her and she doesn't swing that way, the conversation may end up circulating all around your workplace. Would you be able to deal with that? Or suppose you two do get together, but things don't work out? Regardless of whether or not all your other coworkers find out about it, you still have to work with this girl, right? Could be awkward, to say the least.
If you find yourself bi-curious, there is no reason not to explore this, but pick someone you don't work with to test your feelings. Good luck =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2008): This is definitely a tricky situation to be in if you've never gotten a chance to experiment before. I wouldn't come on too strong with her - but i wouldn't rule out that she could swing a little bit if given the chance. Just gradually get to know her better on a personal level - ask about guys she may have dated and get to how she feels about girls dating. If it feels like the right time and natural for you to approach her - then go for it. But keep it a bit casual/light. Be honest and let her know that you've never tried this before.Keep in mind that you do know her through a work setting, and should try to keep things as clean as possible. Anything too brash could leave the two of you in a tougher situation as coworkers. If you've had crushes on girls before then by all means you have as much right as anyone else to sexually explore your likes and dislikes! No other way around it.
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