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writes:Hey everyone! I've been having some huge issues lately. I really like this one guy, Tom*. He is really sweet and understanding, and I suspect he likes me back. But, of course, there is a catch. My ex-best friend, Celeste*, likes him too. I'm a little worried that she could really hurt me if we started dating. Do you think he is worth the risk, or should I move on?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (18 December 2010):
You claim she's an ex-best friend. If that's so, then that means she's not a friend. And if she's not a friend, then the code of friendships doesn't apply here, which means you can date him.
Sure, she might try to hurt you. But to be honest, who cares what she thinks. I don't. If Tom likes you as much you like him, he won't care either. And you'll be with Tom, so you won't really care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2010): Break it down as who he fits better with logically and what he's looking for in personality. You need to remove any emotion here as best as possible in order to avoid any conflict. To play it safe, I myself, wouldnt go after him simply cause I dont wanna risk any bad emotion with my other friend. Id explain that to the guy myself and if he didnt understand, he's probably immature and incapable of holding a relationship anyway most likely. Good luck.
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