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writes:I met this guy, I knew I was in love with him right from the beginning, but thought he would never fall for me. I'm 14 and he's 16, however I didn't complain because we became really good friends and have a lot in common such as our hobbies. Against all odds he told me he had fallen in love with me, we're now what we like to call "reserved" by each other. My parents don't mind as long as I'm careful about what I do, I've already told this guy I do things on my terms and he respects that I will only do things when I am ready, however he's soon turning 17 and I wanted your opinions: will people judge us? And do you think it's possible that he loves me or is it too good to be true? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2009): age is only a number.and whilst i too cannot say if it is too good to be true or not,i know you are not 'too young' to love or be in love and that if anyone gives you a hard time over your relationship then please ignore them they are not worth it x
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reader, Timothy81  +, writes (26 July 2009):
No offense, but you guys are still very young to talk about real love. When you go to college - you'll meet all sorts of different people. You might be "in like " with this guy now, but not "in love". My opinion...
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you quarky for your views. and to ask oldersister, all i can say it wow! he must have been an amazing guy, you have actually inspired me :) thats such a lovely story!!! thank you guys :) more opinions welcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): If there's anythign i've learned, it's that if you go around thinking things 'are too good to be true" then your pesismism will make it that way, even if it wasn't destined to be. Afterall, if someone gave you a million dollars, would you stop to question it's reality, or would you head for the shoe store?
And who cares if people judge you? As long as you're happy, he's happy and your parents are ok.. then it doesn't really matter. It's a good age to start learning that lesson. I know that personally, if i saw you two walking and knew your ages, i would care a bit. It's not that large an age gap actually and sure he'll be seventeen soon, but then you'll turn fifteen! Just think, when your thirty two and he's thirty four, will anyone think twice? I highly doubt it.
You two will be ok. Just believe.
~Sy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2009): I also can't say whether it's too good to be true, as I don't know either of you.
I can't say whether he loves you, this depends on how long you've been together, how close you are, his words, and more importantly his actions.
People have no right to judge you, and - excluding parents and close friends - don't worry about what other people think.
It's good that you have set your boundaries, and as long as he sticks to those (and doesn't pressure you) until you're both ready to have a sexual relationship, I don't see anything to worry about.
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reader, quarky +, writes (25 July 2009):
 I can't say how others would judge you or if his feelings are true of course!
But your mum sounds very sensible and as a dad I'd say the same.
So as long as he respects your boundaries (and you his), and you're safe, I'd say go for it.
A word of caution however- the age difference can be difficult to overcome-not impossible, just difficult. You may eventually have to find that out the hard way..
In the meantime, Have fun, don't be pushed into anything you don't want to do and BE SAFE!
Best of luck!
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