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Do some relationships just not work out?

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Question - (14 December 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 21 December 2007)
A female New Zealand age 30-35, *aurens writes:

is age relevent, im 20 and i dated a 32 yr old with a child. things were grate when we were together and i never had an issue but whenever i thought of introducing him to my friends i couldnt see him fitting in.

is it enough for just the 2 of you to get on, or does he need to fit into your life and your friends as well.

if you care about each other enough does it all work out or are some relationships just not going to work.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007):

I'm in a 12 yr diff relationship and I don't feel like it would be comfortable to hang out with my friends AND boyfriend with the exception of our mutual friends (all ages) from community doesn't affect our relationship at all..I think it's more what you want out of life, maturity, compatibility, etc.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007):

There are some occasions when it's nice to live in your own little world with someone, but why won't he fit in with your friends? What are you going to have to compromise to make the relationship work?

What do you do when you're together? Do you go out, have a shared hobby or sport, does he inspire you? What is going to keep you together beyond physical pleasure, because that dies without something more to the relationship.

Make a list of all the things you want to do in life, be it have a great career, backpack round Australia, have a family, move to Mongolia or go over Niagra Falls in a barrel. Can you see yourself being the person you want to be and fulfill your full potential with your current partner in your life?

Best of luck.

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A female reader, bqagirl2692 United States +, writes (14 December 2007):

bqagirl2692 agony auntWell, i believe that if the 2 of you really care for eachother than thats all that seems to matter. Most people live their lives by following other peoples standards and all that seems to cause is regret and unhappiness. If you love him and he loves you and your certain that he is your soulmate, then introduce him to your friends and family. If they are your true friends, then whatever makes you happy should make them happy as well, despite the age difference or any other difference. Live up to your own standards. Have pride in the fact that you have a loving partner and someone to care for and for them to care back. So answering your question, YES! I do think that if you love eachother enough, ANYTHING is possible! Good luck!

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