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writes:Okay.. Im 16, i've always been single. I dated this guy (lets call him Sam) for nearly 3months - May, June and a bit of July. He went to my school, so I knew him for a year before that, but I developed feelings for him and he did the say for me. We weren't official, we spent time to get know each other to see if would work out, however he found someone else and he made her his girlfriend. I was pretty hurt but I got over him..However while I was getting over him I became closer to my best friend's close friend (lets call him Tom).I've known Tom for over a year, but I only recently started talking to him more.I thought I liked him for a few days, but it was when I was gettin over my ex (Sam).I talk to Tom ALOT more than I talked to Sam.With this guy (Tom), we speak on the phone constantly.. literally everynight for hours. We both ring each other, so it goes both ways.Tom does have a girlfriend, but I dont know where it is with them, I know he doesnt like me because it's pretty obvious and I just know it (so please dont say "he may like you, you never know).I havent met Tom in person yet, but I will be seeing him on saturday when i go out with my 2 other friends and him.I don't know if I like him, right now I feel that I dont, but sometimes I THINK I do, and my friends that know him keep saying "you two are so cute" etc..Was i just feeling that way because I was getting over Sam?
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (27 August 2008):
 I really think that you may only like him because you tried to get over Sam.
You needed emotional support after Sam left you, and Tom gave it to you. So I don't blame you for getting feelings for him. But to me, he's only your rock, your crying shoulde, the person you can lean on when you have a problem.
Plus, another thing is the peer pressure. You're not even sure if you like him or not, but since your friends keep on saying on how cute the two of you would look like, it pressures you in trying to like him. I also find their comments highly disrespectful for the guy and his girlfriend.
So just treat this as a small crush and leave it alone. You'll find a guy that will treat you like Tom AND will love you romatically, so just keep on looking for him.
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