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writes: Myself and my partner and been together now for approx 15months, She is still married and says this is so as not to upset things in the family as she has a 12 yr old daughter.I do love her althought not as much as when we first got together, we originally for around a yr lived with my parents, then about 3 months ago found our own place.The problem seems to be, she has just recently started getting very very moody snappy and controlling, which I do not appreciate, and has on occasions accused me of lying when I can honestly say hand on heart I havent althought she refuses to listen to what I say.Things also seems to get a bit more heated on weekends and in school holidays when her daughter stops over our house, which again I dont appreciate.Everyone else is telling me i'd be better off without her and to leave her, also my parents have recently noticed the change of her and say they would be happy for me to come home and would even be prepared to come pick me and my things up.Friends have told me I can do a lot better, but after being with someone for over a year I don't relish the idea of being alone.Please help I dont know how much more I can take and if I do leave her I am not sure how to tell her I want to leave, as like I say I do still love her although not as much, I am just so confused.Many Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, kimberlina +, writes (5 January 2006):
 This must be really difficult for you. Being in love with someone and not being able to communicate with her. You seem very confused to. How about taking a walk and think calmly about what you could say to her because you really need to sit down with her and tell her from your heart how you are feeling and ask her if somethings bothering her as you have noticed a change.
It's probably best for you to try and communicate with her about your feelings because if you do leave you will feel as though you have exhausted every solution. Maybe there is something she isn't telling you about her feelings.
You could try working together as long as there is mutual agreement to change the behaviour.Then if this doesn't seem to work you could give it a time limit and then let her know that you will be leaving her.
It is difficult living together with someone especially if they are moody. But this happens to the best of people but it takes 2 to tango to make it a happy union.
Perhaps you both need some time together.Maybe you could offer a massage. I know it is hard to show love to someone who turns into a moody monster. But try not to distance yourself from her as this will make it difficult for you when you start talking to her.
I really hope that it all turns out for the best which ever way it goes. Just remember life's full of ups and downs especially in relationships. Good-luck!
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