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writes:2 years ago I moved overseas with my girlfriend of 3 years. Everything went wrong almost straight away - mainly because she couldn't find work and I went away all the time with my job. She became depressed and took all her anxieties out on me which made me - which in turn made me very angry and hard to live with. 4 months ago - I realised that I was severely depressed due to the emotional stress of the relationship - so I called it quits. The truth is - I now find myself missing her desperately - despite there being an opportunity for me to move on with a girl who blew me away from the second I met her. I find myself only remembering the good things we did together - with my ex - not the hell she put me through?My questions are; what is wrong with me am I genuinely missing her or am I homesick or something as I now find myself very alone in this city??; Do I still love her to such an extent that I can't easily move on; and if that is the case should I try to move regardless with this new girl or should I give in and act upon my feelings of missing my ex so desperately. (She in any case wants to start again - she would be devastated if she new of this other girl.) Help??? I feel really low....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): Man, I understand your feeling ... For I am experiencing the same.I married a Thai woman and once that was done I invited her to live in my country (in Europe). It seemed to be fine at first, I thought I would give her time to adapt and she just cared for the place we were living in while I took all other responsibilities on me. Day by day, it went wrong, and at a time she exploded and what was heaven turned out to be hell almost from one day to the next.She was meaner that I ever thought she could be ... but anyway, when she moved back to Thailand, I could not forget her, I missed her everyday ... I met other girls and it didn't prevent me from thinking of her even during lovemaking. So I decided to be on my own and give myself some time to think deeply. It's been 5 months she's away now, and I still don't know what I should do. The difference between you and me is that your girl seems to love you and really wants to try again, while mine doesn't seem to care more than that. I do not expect any compassion or even advice, as anyway I would probably not listen to it, love is not reasonable. But maybe this can corroborate what mona-lisa-cries said ... you need to know if you aim at a relationship in the long term, and forget about that bad episode of life (which can be understood ...), or if it doesn't deserve any effort. Man, I think I envy you a bit.Take care and good luck,Céd.
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reader, Rikki  +, writes (8 May 2007):
Love is the best feeling of the world....Missing someone is having a diffrent feeling....So give you time and think,Evenif you are with other beautiful girl and thinking about your girl every moment....Then you are in love....So World is small than your own love..
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reader, mona-lisa-cries +, writes (8 May 2007):
 wow this is a tricky one, first you need to find out what you want from the relationship, a dedicated long relationship or just a bit of fun. Once you know that you just need to think who would be best for you.
You need to take a while away from everything and remember what had happened and thinkabout what might happen and figure out if its worth it or not.
i wish you luck, hope i helped :)
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