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writes:I just found out my girlfriend lost her virginity to a player, and this same guy has had sex with all 3 girlfriends I've ever had. I don't care that she has a past, thats her business. What is bothering me is that this guy, A.J. had had de-virginized every single one of my girlfriends the last 2 years. People are always asking me if I enjoy his sloppy seconds or something. This hurts me as well as my girlfriend. A.J. is one of those player guys that will say and do anything to get a girl in bed with him. How the hell do I handle this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): That s*cks. For GF number 4, I would move your circle of potential mates out a bit farther than the pool your currently fishin' in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): hey, guess what - you ARE A DECENT HUMAN BEING. Who cares what this AJ is up to, you just hold your head up high. you have integrity and morals. which girl wouldn't jump at a chance with you. do not live your life by what others say, as long as you know that you are doing the right thing.
however, sorry to be the bearer of potential bad news. If this AJ has slept with so many girls, your gf and yourself should have yourselves checked for an STD/STI.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Girls make mistakes... And every once in a while there's that one guy that every girl just wants to claim and/or sex it up with. Sounds like AJ is that guy, and your girls have been those girls.
I know it must be bothering you, but just try and think that he wasn't good enough to keep them around, and you're the one they actually want.
It bothered the hell out of me when I found out my ex had slept with so many girls he couldn't even count while he was going to be my 2nd... It's almost the same thing. You just need to ignore the past and look at things as they come. The only way you'll fully accept your girlfriend is if you forgive her for her past.
Good luck!
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (25 March 2009):
 You know what? In recalling my last post, I'm going to add this:
To anyone who has no right (no right = anyone other than family and good friends) to talk crap about your relationship with this girl: #(*%#@$%)!(*%)# them!! Seriously tell them to mind their own business and back off!
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (25 March 2009):
Having someone talk trash/crap about your girlfriend, let it be something small or big, is always very irritating. However, you should take solace in the fact that she also gets very hurt by the comment. This means that she regrets that it ever happened and wish it hadn't. If you two love each other, then, honestly, it doesn't matter what the f&#$ anyone else thinks!!! Especially since you're not freaking over her past, but only over what other people say.
Let me ask... are the people saying this crap about you and your gf friends of yours are his?
Yours: tell them to stop insulting your girfriend
His: ignore them until the world implodes
Random people: they fall under the "his" category
As far as AJ himself goes... he's a douche bag. He has no respect for woman and will probably end up being an abusive or cheating husband. Chances are he'll catch multiple STDs that can either be cured or handled with medication (or not). And chances are he will end up with a girlfriend/wife that's about as "loyal" as him. So take solace in that as well. He's a solid, grade-a jack%@# and you shouldn't worry about people like that. They don't care about others, including their partners (both one-nighters and long-term).
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