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writes:I was just wondering if there are any women out there that get uncomfortable or even feel pain when there clitoris is touched or licked etc. I have been with my fiance for about 6 years now and I really want to know what to do if anything to make this part of hers very pleasurable. I am not allowed in this area and it is very frustrating for me. please help me.
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reader, woman23 +, writes (21 October 2008):
 Some women are afraid to hurt your feelings so dont tell you that you are doing it wrong, and wrong, so if i where you, i would ask her how she likes it. she need to let you know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): After 6 years you should be able to discuss matters like this openly and honestly with each other. The only way that you will really get to know each other and be able to truly satisfy each other is to discuss matters.
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reader, Trauma +, writes (21 October 2008):
 Whether or not it hurts or makes a girl uncomfortable really depends on the girl.
Me, & a few girls I know, hate receiving oral. It's just really uncomfortable to me to have a guy's face that close to that area.
You really should talk to your fiance about this. Don't make her feel pressured, though. Just ask her what she'd be willing to do sexually, & what she absolutely doesn't want. Me & my boyfriend have this talk a lot. If she doesn't say anything about that area, ask her how she feels about receiving oral. If she says she doesn't want it, though, don't make her feel bad. She may change her mind later, but she may not. It's her decision. Even if you really want it, it's not fair to her to have to do it if it's something she doesn't like.
Good luck.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 If you're planning on marrying her, you should discuss intimacy matters with her beforehand. Most women do not feel discomfort or pain from gentle touching, but what matters is how your FIANCE feels. Just say, hey, Would it make you uncomfortable if I asked you something personal? Ask her respectfully. I would be offended if the postman, a male teacher(or female, for that matter), grocery man asked me anything regarding the clitoris... but if someone I'm going to have sex with for the rest of my life asked me, it would be a different story.
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