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writes:A few days ago i attended a church function. Next to me was a young lay of about 21years. We talked had so much fun.After a while she went to get something from her car. Her aunt who was sitting next to me leaned over and said "do you know her parents are divorcing?". I didnt beleve it but in a way i wasnt suprised to hear her say that.For a long time now it has been common to hear ad talk about divorce just like a basketball match. Yes its now so popular that so many people get married to divorce. Do you know the main reason people divorce. Its sex. I know its never talked about but thats the main reason. People dont respect their bodies anymore. I have read articles of young girls who start having sex at 12 or even earlier. Guess what this is the main cause for divorce. If a woman does not respect her body who else will? im not a traditional person but common sense tells me that if you sleep with someone you are not married to then you are wasting away the trust needed in a marriage.As for boys dont you want the wife to respect you and hespect her as well. Marriage is about giving all your best. and if you slept with some other woman is that all you got to give?. Some things are meant to be shared among two pepole. it is magicall when that happens.Love also has been misdefined, you love someone with your body??No love someone for who you and they are and not sex. In these trying times where there is aids be careful. A good marriage has trust at the beggining till the end so make the most of it. Ofcos other factors of chosing the right partner come into play.Have a career first. Most people live with boyfrinds while working at hyvees. Get your education escpecially for the women and be independent of anyone but yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): The number one reason for divorce is financial problems, followed closely by infidelity.
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reader, SammyJo92  +, writes (11 March 2009):
my father and mother divorced because it wasnt working out for them both, they wanted more in life and other people. communcation went out the window and they agrued all the time. both changed people
its not just about sex
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reader, tux +, writes (9 March 2009):
 I say her aunt should stick a sock into her piehole. She shouldn't be spreading around something that should be private like that. Silly Gossip Ladies..
But as far as reasons of divorce, I think you are oversimplifying it too much to a point that it sounds like you are trying to preach abstinence. Divorce goes beyond just sex. I think communication has been thrown to the waste side and no one is willing to try to keep things together. They like the good parts, but they forget about the bad parts in their vows and want to quit when things get rocky. It's "for better or worse", and not "For better or worse unless I just want to quit."
As far as trust goes, in any relationship, it is earned and not granted. If you feel that a person having sex before marriage is untrustworthy, than you should find someone who hasn't. But the truth out there is that there are plenty of trustworthy people out there who have had sex before marriage. Often times in marriage or any relationship trust is often lost due to other factors beyond them having sex prior to you. I'll admit that a lot might be related to having sex prior to marriage, like still talking/thinking about it... desiring to go back or acting upon it because you want a bigger variety because you have already tasted a variety. The other side of that is if you both are virgins and do get married, you may still have the urge to see if you missed out on anything, which can also lead to lost trust because one is acting upon it or thinking about acting upon it.
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