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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years a couple of days ago. We were living together for 2 of those years and frankly I was beginning to despise him. I'm not sure why I have so much anger towards him. He was really expressive with his love, always called to check in, stayed home a lot with me and was clean and responsible and we were always practically together, to the point where it was too much sometimes. When we were happy it was great we laughed a lot and talked openly but when we would fight all hell would break loose. He would say the meanest things to me when upset like you don't know how to treat your man, or you are so rude and disrespectful, quit talking back to me. Even once spit on the floor and told me to get away from him because I was a rude bitch. He would explode and I would always be confused like one time when we went on a camping trip together and I was looking in the mirror and he started yelling at me that all I cared about was myself and I did not want to help him with directions to the place. I didn't even know we were lost. Then when I tried to tell him that, he got even more angry and said I was talking back to him and began to drive recklessly around the mountain which was really scary becauase there were cliffs. I actually feared for my life. His temper was so bad, but his love was so good and he could be very romantic. He never hit me but would nag at me and have so much hate and yell when he was angry. When I tried to tell him the reason I was leaving is because of his temper he told me I was unforgiving and that I was picking out a little habit and forgetting all the good stuff like his honesty and loyalty. I feel so emotionally hurt that I'm in a state of depression and extreme anxiety. I can't even sleep around him and no longer feel safe. Even so he has me doubting myself at times and wondering if I made the right decision. I do still love him even though I'm angry. Did I make the right decision to leave him?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 September 2012):
 I'm pretty sure you know he wan't the right guy for you and that ended it was the right thing for you.
Sure he had some good points, but obviously they didn't out weight the bad ones.
Don't doubt your decisions or second guess yourself.
Time to focus on you. Pick yourself up, take some time to reflect and MOVE on.
Of course he is going to ATTACK you and your choices, it makes him feel less "guilty" for his behavior. A guy like him isn't willing to admit to any wrong doings.
Good for you!
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