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*tianKinn
writes:I'm a male 20 yrs and I think I may have ejaculated inside this woman, I'm positive that I ejaculated outside as I saw with own eyes. But my lack of self confidence makes me doubt myself.I'm totally freaking out and I'm constantly cursing myself for have done what I did.But I still worry and am scared to the point of throwing up, I can't sleep. Same time I know i'm the guilty one, which is not making anything better.I'm not ready to take that kind of responsibility no matter what anyone says. I just want to know the best way to deal with this and how i should "Think" about this.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Ok,StianKinn- First, it's too early to start fretting right now. She might not be pregnant at all. Wait for the result of the pregnancy test.
Second,pls. do not pressure her for an abortion. Her body,her choice . If you do pressure her, I'll promise I'll come to haunt your dreams every night :)
Third, do not worry exceeedingly about your parents'reaction- at first they may be angry,worried,disappointed- but eventually they'll deal- and graciously- with what there's to deal with.
I have a 20 y.o. son and I have been hammering in his head the need for practicing safe sex since when he was really young. I think I succeeded,but if anyway he should make a "mistake "- hey, this mistake would be MY kid's kid.My blood too. How could I stay angry about that.
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reader, StianKinn +, writes (13 May 2010):
StianKinn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn all honesty i never wanted to do this risk, i do not want a child, though i did take the risk because of my own stupidity. If she's pregnant and we decide for abortion then i have no problem of paying for it.
Though this happened yesterday i haven't talked to her yett.
This is nothing but i repeated myself all the time that i don't want and to make her aware of it. But i can't believe that i did something that stupid.
I want to tell my parents but i'm scared of their reaction, and what'll happen after that.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (13 May 2010):
My thought exactly ,q1605-some times you amaze me.
StianKinn,it's not that I don't have compassion for your predicament,you are only 20 and it's normal you are scared. But what does it mean " I am not ready for the responsibility "? Once you decide to have sex, you know there may be consequences- if you want avoid possible consequences,then avoid having unprotected sex.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 Even if you did not ejaculate inside of her, you still run the risk of getting her pregnant. You release pre-cums inside of her and it may contain sperms. It is also possible you may even leaked some sperms at the height of your excitements.
If you do not want to go through such a state of anxieties again , you should practice safe sex.
Now that you have not practice safe sex, you will have to sit tight and pray that her period comes and she is not pregnant.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (13 May 2010):
 I understand the words " im not ready to take the resposibility yet".. that is really understandable. But if she really get pregnant that means you gonna be a father soon. and weather you like it or not you are going to be responsible to this. Dont think too hard. Sometimes we are so scared of whats going to happen in the future. and sometimes worrying to much the future makes us only miserable. When she get pregnant talk to her. tell her what you really feel. I think this is the very first good step you can do. To be honest to what you really feel. With this talking you two will find a solution. Maybe she will agree to not continue it, but if she want to keep the baby then maybe you two can talk how you two will manage the situation since you are not yet ready to the big responsibilities. and dont worry so much, when baby come you dont need instantly a big amount of money, when the baby small the amount of expenses is also small. when the baby grow up the amount of expenses will also grow up. the good thing is' the baby will not grow up in just 1 month. it will count a year. with that you can also prepare your self. I wish you luck and a courage to fight the fear.
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