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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I was dating a guy I really liked, we both had the same family values, had similar upbringing, had a lot of things in common and always had so much fun when we were together. I haven't liked someone so much in such a long time. Only thing I did not like about him was that we never spoke on the phone! And I would only hear from him every once in a blue moon. He has a very time consuming and stressful job so I try to be understanding but I feel like there should still be some kind of effort. We became intimate and after that, I began hearing from him more often (through text of course) and we made plans to go on a small trip together, but the dates were not set in stone. But it didn't last very long, he changed shortly after and would barely text me to talk but he would want me to send and receive pictures...I did it at first (the pics were not nude), but then it got to a point where it seemed like that was ALL he wanted to do, and he mentioned "sexting"...I tried to hint to him I wanted to talk on the phone by saying I "wanted to hear his voice" it didn't work. So once he mentioned sexting, I just asked him very sweetly how come we couldn't talk on the phone and if I was ever going to hear his voice? He did not reply and I gave him ample time to. So I then told him if he didn't want to talk to me on the phone, that was fine but it seems like now he only wanted pics and sexts. I had a good time with him and would like to again but just because we had sex it doesn't mean I'm not worth a normal conversation I'm still a human being. I told him to have a good night. And I have not heard from him since. I was not angry or emotional, just matter of fact but of course because it is a TEXT I think he presumed I was. I REALLY liked him and I'm so disappointed in this. Please knock some sense into me, did I do the right thing and should I forget about him? Or was this too direct? And he is 32.
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reader, OscarsMummyReturns  +, writes (14 February 2012):
at 32 he should have the courage to talk to you on the telephone, i cant see how this could ever transform into a full bown 'real' relationship where you go for meals and the cinema etc..it seems he is out for what he can get he is calling the shots and why the heck should he! dont waste you time on the other end of a mobile texting, he could even be seeing someone else... get out and about and dont text him... seriously this would have done my head in by now, he should want to take you out and show you off... at 32 he should be at the stage of having a grown up relationship, you werent direct at all you are just being a grown up which he isnt - please dont waste your time with him he doesnt deserve you i promise x
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