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anonymous
writes:Hi all,Ive been having a casual relationship with someone at work,he says he wants me to be his girlfriend but im not so sure if thats what i want. he left his mobile with me over the weekend - did he want me to read his messages from other girls???I read the messages there was only 2 but 5 new ones came through when i turned the phone on - i panicked and deleted them all - oops. Do i tell him the truth or play dumb???
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reader, Manya  +, writes (22 September 2008):
Well, it seems a complicated question. My first response is to say that he probably left it there by accident, and you shouldn't have touched it, but just told him it was there. Did you read his messages from curiousity, to try to see if you liked him since you're still trying to figure out your feelings? It's possible the ones you deleted may be important, from his parents or work or an old friend who is freaking out about something, so I would say, unless you're sure they were "other girls" then you should tell him soon, or he may miss something important. I think honesty is the best policy.
If he left his mobile for you to use, then he should be forgiving, was he trying to make you jealous? I think you should talk to him about what's going on with these messages from other girls you accidentally read.
Good luck getting this all straightened out!! just be yourself.
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reader, NicoleP +, writes (21 September 2008):
ok first of all did he leave the phone with you to look after or by accident? If it was by accident then I'm assuming not. If he left the phone with you to look after for whatever reason then he probably isn't bothered whether you looked at them or not. If he asks you if you deleted any messages then be honest, if he doesn't mention anything about his messages being deleted then I would probably keep schtum.
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