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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys soo I have a really good boyfriend he's respectful and sweet and caring but I still feel kind of unwanted and unimportant to him lately, he spends little time with me and more time with other girls and guy friends and he always seems to have more fun with them. He used to want to spend alot of time with me and he used to show that he cared more that's why I'm concerned about this. I really don't mind him hanging out with his friends more then me but since it wasn't always like this I'm scared he may lose interest in me. I'm not sure what to think, I don't know if I may be overreacting or I really should be concerned. If it was any other guy I would've just broken up with them, but this relationship is different and and we've gone way too deep for me to just throw everything away. But i don't want to straight up tell him that he is spending more time with his friends and treating me the way he used to then before cause overall he still is a good guy and i dont mean to sound selfish and greedy. Please help I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 October 2012):
 It's tough to know exactly how to advise you because I don't know how much time he's spending with you now as opposed to before. Every relationship has ebbs and flows, meaning there will be time when you don't stay in constant contact and see each other constantly.
Do you spend time with your friends and cultivate a full life outside of your relationship with him? It's important, because even with a partner, he shouldn't become your everything. That is never healthy. Relationships have to breathe. Unless he's only contacting you once every 2 weeks or so, it's normal to have a social life.
You mentioned other girls? Is he dating them? Flirting with them? Texting with them? Are you part of his social circle and can be on his arm enjoying the company of his friends as well sometimes?
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