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writes:My boyfriend's daughter, 23 years old, "daddy's girl" hates me. I have tried everyhing to be "win her over".Despite this, she talks so mean to me.She is jealous since she does not have a boyfriend, coupled with this, she is completely dependent on her father. She has no relationship with her mother.In the beginning she was so nice, but this fake love did not last too long.Help me, what can I do to win her over.Desperately in love with a man who's daughter hates me.PS he has 3 daughters - help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2008): This is a tough question. Have you talked to her father at all? She is 23, so you might even approach her and ask her why she feels so strongly. Tell her you are not trying to take her father away from her, only make him happy. Ask her if she thinks her father is happy or would be happier without you. If she continues to be nasty, then talk to her father and maybe think about family counseling.
I had a rough relationship with my stepdad. After he died, I really regretted not letting his relationship with my mother be a little easier since she is so lonely without him.
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reader, aka ms phoenix  +, writes (24 August 2008):
 You mention nothing about your boyfriend and his feelings on this issue. I wonder how he feels. How do the other daughters feel about you? Do you want to win her over because you want her to like you or you just want to for your boyfriend? It will be hard to win her over as long as you push yourself on her. I suggest that you back off. Continue to be friendly towards her but don't try to force yourself on her. Listen to what she is saying, not just what comes out of her mouth but what she does when you are around. You will be surprised at what you hear when you just stop and listen. And do discuss this with your boyfriend, not in a way he may think you are jealous of her but in a concern way. After all, you just want her to be as friendly to you as you are to her. I think if you do this you will find that she will come around...you can't fight by yourself!!!
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