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30-35,
*RTownsend
writes:Desperate is a big word for me...I have lost many girls due to being desperate or clingy. I have met a girl recently and I really like her. We first met in a swing dancing club I am in at my college and found out we have a class together. That night SHE asked ME to dance three times! Thats a lot for me, usually I have to ask. I talked to her again the next day in class but not too much because I didn't want to seem clingy. Then a week rolled around and swing again. She walked in and I walked up and greeted her. Then that night she stayed by my side ALL night, she danced with a couple other guys but mainly stayed with me. I didn't keep her there she could have left whenever. She kept saying "Do you wanna dance or talk more...how about dance?" And I taught her a few moves and we talked a lot. This was about two hours. She had to leave and said bye, but before she left I asked for her number and got it. Next day texted her and said hey and we had a short convo..Now its today. My problem is I don't want to seem clingy or desperate, i dont want to text too much and I really want to hang out with her but I dont know how to ask and dont want it to seem clingy. Ive known her for about a week and a half. i want to text or call her now but I already texted once today.. Basically I dont want to screw this one up by being desperat/clingy and I need to know how?
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reader, epicureansage  +, writes (20 February 2011):
When "hunting ladies", just keep in mind this rule - you propose, she disposes. IOW if you ask for a date, and she agrees, proceed. If you txt her and she replies and is chatty, proceed. Etc. When it's "too much" is when you try to "take more of her" than she' prepared to let you have. So just pay attention.
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reader, dunlu  +, writes (20 February 2011):
 there is no problem with you calling or texting her,but pay attention to the feedback you get when you do those thing.If its positive then will have to go in that direction but if its the oppositve then you will have no choice but to get her intrested in you and that may take some time.Desperate is not the word for you according to me but confidence and remember too much of anything is bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): How about the 48 hour plan until you get things more solid?
Every 48 hours call or text...
Don't go heavy on the PDA and seem aloof 25% of the time.
say you are a busy guy even tho you are not.
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