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writes:So I have this friend, we've grown apart greatly over the last year. I have this problem with him. We have this mutual person we know, who is an old friend of his (lets call him ali). Ali is a guy our own age. He messed around many of our friends, lied to us, had money issues, girl issues and general unpleasantness. This might be linked to bouts of depression he has that means he's prone to ignoring phone calls unless he needs something. Basically when i knew him he was quite a nasty piece of work and pretty darned selfish. My friend, however, seems to overlook all these qualities in this other friend. I think I've made it quite clear I dislike this friend, yet he still brings him up in conversation quite casually like "Guess who's back in the country?". what is a polite way I can assert how I feel about this person, also what is the best way to deal with this people who have favourite friends for whom they will excuse any crime. Crimes that they wouldnt excuse in other people? What does it say about them?
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (9 June 2009):
 Your friend has made the decision that the friendship with Ali is worth having. You said you've already made your position on this clear, so listen politely and change the subject. If your friend wants to be friends with someone you don't like there isn't anything you can do about it, since it's their life and their choice. Just let it go.
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