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writes:I'm kind of seeing two guys at once, but am not "offically" a girlfriend to either of them. We'll call the first guy T and the other guy C. I met T last years summer, and we just started talking and hanging out a few months ago again, and i'm quite confused as to if he just wants to be friends or is interested in something more. I've been good friends with C for about a year now, and he asked me out on a date last week. I've gone on dates with T as well, but neither of us ever called it a date, which makes me even more confused. Anyway, I can clearly tell that C has the intentions to want to make me his girlfriend eventually, with T, no idea what he wants. I like them both very much. My dilemma is that if me and T were ever to become a couple, it would last muuch longer than if myself and C were to be a couple, and I would much prefer being in a relationship with T honestly. But, my other problem is that I don't know if T just wants to be friends or if he's actually interested. Do i go for C and let things take it's course or do I let him go and wait for the other guy? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 October 2010):
 Sorry, that's for you to decide.
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reader, japjess83  +, writes (11 October 2010):
There is a book you should read called stop getting dumped. ITS PERFECT for this situation... Nothing wrong with "Dating more than one guy, 3 is the limit." It seems that you have kept this very casual, which is the correct thing to do ;)
I would continue to "date" both guys. Until one of them wants an actual commitment, and it is kept at a G/PG rated relationship (not going passed kissing)you are fine sweetie. Nothing wrong with hanging out with people you enjoy company. It seems to me, Personally, (completely biased opinion)They both like you sincerely. They would not be going out on ... "unofficial dates" with you for so long, without expecting something in return... if they did not appreciate you for who you are.
You seem like a sweet independent girl, and you never know what is in store. I would suggest to keep being your own person, don't say the L word first, and let them ask you to be in a committed relationship, not you. Again as long as it is g/pg... and there is not commitment, there is no problem.
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