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writes: So I dated a girl starting last july and was in a long distance relationship with her till about Nov. I didn't really seeing it going anywhere so I ended it. She would take me over to her friends a lot and we became good friends. About a month after things were over her friend told me out of the blue she was interested. I was and always had been interested in her. We started hanging out and even dating this month. She says she really likes me and I could totally see something very long term with her however she is very scared if her good friend found out that it would distroy their long friendship.Now I'm worried it will end. Any ideas how I could make this work?? I guess the ex is not over me yet either. We both need roomates in about 2 months and were thinking we could pretend to be roomates first n go from there. Any ideas/ past stories about it working? Thnks!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2010): what a pickle, right?? first you cross boundaries with sleeping with the ex's friend. now both you and the friend want to be even more shady and hide the fact that you are doing each other. why pretend if you both got nothing to hide. why all the decit and all the back stabbing ( towards your ex) of course the woman you are now having sex is scared she would be found out. talk about rubbing salt in your ex's heart. you and this woman had designs on each other while you were with the ex. thisis just so wrong. but then you don't really care about right or wrong right now, do you. Your firstly shit on your ex, move on with her friend even before your ex has time to dry her tears over your breakup, now BOTH of you want to be underhanded and pretend that you are not sleeping together. BE A MAN AND START ACTING LIKE ONE. instead of a fake, both you and your new sex partner have to come clean and tell your ex about you and her friend. YOU have some decency and you come clean even though your new sex partner doesn't. as I said be a man, DAMMIT, TRY BEING AN HONOURABLY MAN for once."I guess the ex is not over me yet either." please also tell your new bed partner that she should not be carry tales. your ex is confiding in her, in confidence, your ex is looking for a friend to help her through the break up, not some backstabbing "friend" who persued her boyfriend just when the break up happened. you know the saying, with friend like these who needs enemies........... stop stop the pillow talk about your ex. she doesn't deserve it.
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