| A
female
,
anonymous
writes: OK this one is for the guys. I was reading an article about dating rules and it states that asking a guy out is a definite no no. I personally think that any rules are nonesense however as I'm too chicken to ask someone out so I'm unable/unwilling to test this theory. Any opinions would be great :) Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2006): My ex asked me out & did a bit of the chasing, but as soon as I saw her feelings for me I was the one doing the chasing...
I was flattered and surprised because she's stunning and never thought that she felt like I did. I'm working on winning her back. Wish me luck.
A
female
reader, Astrid  +, writes (19 November 2006):
 Yes I think you can ask a boy out if you feel like it, it is not a problem in modern society
...............................
A
male
reader, Yos  +, writes (19 November 2006):
 Maybe see them as guidlines not rules.
What I will tell you is that... they work! Men like a challenge (which is why we are out climbing mountains and building bridges and so on), and this is true of how we think of women too. If you make it too easy for us then we will usually take the bait, but then get bored quickly and move on. Playing hard to get is a good way to make a guy want you more... and if it doesn't work, its because he doesn't really want you in the first place.
Most guys will say 'yes' if a girl asks him out on a date because he thinks he might get some easy sex out of it. He'll say yes even if he doesn't like you and has no intention of seeing you again afterwards. Horrible but true.
What you want to be doing is finding ways to figure out which guys really like you... and a good sign of that is if he's willing to chase you and chase you and chase you and keep on trying even when you make it difficult for him. The 'players' will usually move on to an easier target, whilst the ones that really do care will make it through.
It's unfortunate, mens brains are a bit messed up, but there you go.
...............................
A
male
reader, Zim  +, writes (19 November 2006):
 Asking a guy out a definite no no? I don't know where that article came from but I don't think its true. There is nothing more flattering to a guy than a woman asking him out. Mainly because we don't expect it. I can speak for all the quiet guys out there as I am one and I personally think that I would be inclined to say yes to a girl that said that just because I would be very impressed. More confident guys however, might not like that although you will never know until you try.:-) Some people have been surprised before. Some guys aren't very good when it comes to reading body language but as long as you look interested, i.e. eye contact, facing him, flirting, he will soon get the idea and might ask you out. Good luck and I hope that helps!!
...............................
|
