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writes: Have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, we have a close relationship. I never met his father in all the time we've been together. His father sadly died on Christmas Day. He has taken it very badly understandibly of course, it was very sudden and unexpected. I have been there for him and done everything i can to help and support him at this difficult time. I asked him about the funeral and was expecting him to say he wanted me there by his side to support him even though i never knew his father, but he has just told me he doesnt know if he wants me to go to the funeral. I am very hurt by this. I dont know wot to do or say
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): He is probably hurting very badly if his dad died suddenly and wants to get through the day without you seeing him like this. If he insists on going alone then tell him you will be there for him in spirit. Tell him how you feel and that you are there for him. People handle death very differently from each other. Just be there for him when he wants you to be. If you never met the dad then you didn't know him. Be patient, he may ask you at the last minute.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): He is probably hurting very badly if his dad died suddenly and wants to get through the day without you seeing him like this. If he insists on going alone then tell him you will be there for him in spirit. Tell him how you feel and that you are there for him. People handle death very differently from each other. Just be there for him when he wants you to be. If you never met the dad then you didn't know him. Be patient, he may ask you at the last minute.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): Please don't be hurt by this, on this day of his father's funeral it is not about you....people are all very different in the way they handle grief, some people cannot even stand to attend their own parents funeral because they want to remember them in life, not in death...and how cah you judge someone for how they handle death and grief?
Just say you would like to go, don't expect to sit next to him though as very often certain members of immediate family sit in the front together....let him do what he feels is best, don't expect anything and you won't feel hurt...this is a very painful time for him and he is overwhelmed I am sure with all kinds of grief and emotion, or may even be numb for awhile until he has time to process his grief just be quietly there in case he wants to talk to you or cry...or if he asks for space then by all means give it to him and let him know you care with a hug.
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