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*unshine99
writes:I need advice as this is driving me insane! I am 25 and have been married for 18 months and I am an only child. My dad has always been possessive over me, mum is fine with me but sides with Dad most of the time! Dad keeps droning on and on about me carrying on with this singing in clubs but I have my own life and just do not want to do this again.I just want to be loved for being me and not a "singer". This has been going on since I was a teenager and I guess I have agreed to do the singing just to "keep the peace" but I can no longer do this. I know I can't do this just to keep certain people happy if it makes me unhappy. I just don't know what to do. Ive tried talking to Dad but he thinks I haven't got a mind of my own, that I am influenced by my husband (which I am not) I am very strong minded but I just don't want to fall out with my Dad over this, he means the world to me but my happiness and my husband's comes first. Any advice would be so welcome. HELP!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, livi +, writes (24 March 2007):
 Hey there,
You poor thing !
YOur dad sounds like he is trying to protect you becoz you must be a pretty good singer and he wants to see you go far, as do most parents.
But you need to let him know this is not the way for you.
Have you tried talking to your mother one on one and seeing what she thinks when your father isn ot around?
Also you could try getting intrested in something you like that isnt singing but being really enthusiastic about it, say you wanted to be a designed, and brining all the papers round your parents house and showing them off a bit.
Also try talking to yuor husband about it. i'm sure he can help.
Good luck with it all : D
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