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writes:Theres this one girl who I'm madly in love with, but I have always known that I have no chance with her, even though we are good friends. This evening, she was just asked out by her crush, and now obviously, they're going out. I just don't know what to do anymore... even though I have known that I don't have a chance with her, I can't get over her, and it's just so depressing now that she's going out with the other guy... I wish we could be together, but I just don't know what to do that would give me any chance at all...
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): Ignore Tommy7 - Attempting to break them up could land you with all sorts of problems.You could just tell her. But that'd take more courage than most guys have. She will be flattered at least. There's always a chance she might be interested too. If not, it could get awkward, word might get around etc. Weigh up the benifits of telling her, given your situation.Otherwise, you just have to move on. You will get over her. Allow yourself the space and time to be upset and/or angry. Either with close friends you can trust, or in private. But once that's out, just move on. Stay calm. Avoid her if necessary. Keep your mind occupied elsewhere - make a concerted effort to spend your time with other people, find something (playing music, a hobby etc.) which you can really loose yourself in.You will get over it. The above may sound cliche - and that's because it is. Love frustrated by other men has been the source of countless poems, art, music for as long as people have been able to communicate. We've all been there. And it will happen again. Often. And it's never much easier to deal with, even as an adult. Just remember, it will pass - all you can do is try to help it pass sooner.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (4 October 2007):
There is nothing you can do but wish her well and try to break them up.
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