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writes:Last winter 07-08 I had a basketball coach (I was 13/14 yrs old). I think that he liked me and now that I am playing for my high school team I saw him there watching me.What should I do?Should I be scared or just ignore it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 We have this question over and over again on here.
Many, many girls in their early teens say that a teacher or sports coach or some other adult in a position of authority is looking at them or behaving towards them in a "perverted" way.
Put it in perspective. There ARE perverts out there, but they are very few and far between and even fewer in positions of authority. The number of girls who believe they have a "problem" is far, far greater than the number of "perverts" who could possibly exist.
Caution is always required. Obviously it's far preferable to be careful and suspicious of a thousand mistaken or innocent situations than to be caught out by just one that ends in disaster. The first move should always be to explain your concerns to your parents and let them make a judgement about whether anything should be done. Parents tend to be over-protective of their daughters, but as I said it's better to be safe than sorry.
Other things to consider:
There is pleasure in watching children and young teens involved in any activities. It's not sexual. It's the pure joy of seeing children growing into young adults. It's not unnatural for a teacher or sports coach to like a young person and to want to follow his or her development, particularly if that young person is gifted in one way or another. I say again, it's not sexual.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (8 June 2008):
Some teachers are pervs. I learned that growing up but you can do absolutely nothing unless he touches you or gives you written proof of his advances. It sucks but if you are really scared of him tell you parents and they will help keep you safe!
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