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Could this have a negative effect? What should I do?

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Question - (23 June 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 23 June 2010)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hey dear cupid!

So this is a bit of a random question, and I guess I just want some opinions on it. I've been searching for a job for quite sometime now and it's all been quite unsuccessful and depressing. It's not that I'm a bad worker, the job market is just not that great at the moment. But I've now got this opportunity as just a part time job to work as an adult chat line talker. Which is essentially talking dirty to guys on the phone (phone sex) and getting paid for it.

What I'm worried about is, can I do this for 10 hours a week? Thats the minimum required amount of time and I'm worried that I will get sick of hearing guys jerk off. Also will this totally ruin dirty talk for me? I'm not much of a dirty talker in the bedroom but an occasional once and a while can turn me on. If I take this job will it kill it for me?

But I also really really *need* the money. This job pays quite alright and I have outstanding bills and things I have to pay off. And I'm thinking if I hate it, I could just leave.

So yeah... to be a phone sex talker or to not be a phone sex talker... opinions?

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A female reader, Caresha Germany +, writes (23 June 2010):

Hi there,

I understand your questions better than you think and that you even consider such a job means that you are open to it in general.

It might happen that such a job changes you. There are a lot of women out there to whom such a job would have that effect. But I have never met a woman who chose to do actually such a job who said it did because it was a job and had NOTHING to do with what they personally like, turns them on etc.

Please ask yourself the following questions nad if the answer to any of these is a definite "no" this job might change you:

Would you consider this job if you did need the money less urgently? Or not at all? Just to pay for the next luxury thing like a holiday?

Can you munt, groan, talk dirty without being horny yourself?

Do you see this job as a service?

Can you distance yourself from the person on the other end?

Do you get emotionally involved?

Do you see a difference between sexual activities such as cyber sex/phone sex and love?

It is a job and it should have NOTHING to do with your personal feelings and relationships. What you might bring into your private life is experience on what "most" men like to hear and a feeling for what the man in front of you wants to hear. That actually might benefit your sex life ;)

Do you have any experience in CyberSex/PhoneSex?

Try a Chatroom and look for one or two Cybersex Partners who just want a one time thing and see how you feel helping someone create a phantasy so that they can masturbate easier.

If you are not comfortable doing this, reconsider this job. It might not change you but it might make you feel really, really bad. Yes, if you hate it, you can go. But it is quite easy to test yourself before starting the job!

Hope that helps. As I do have experience in that area do not hesitate to ask any further questions!

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