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writes:Over a year and I half ago I had my only one night stand of my life. There was alot to drink, sex with and without a condom, although I never "finished" inside her. I woke up the next morning and felt sick to my stomach with disgust. This was with a girl I knew for a total of 3 or 4 hours before we left a bar, and got to know zero about each other. I woke up the next morning and thought to myself that I didn't know how anyone in thier right mind can live with themselves doing that week after week.So the other night, with my now fiance, I am watching the movie "Big Daddy" and couldn't help but wonder if this is even possible to happen to me. Can someone here please tell me that I'm crazy to think that someone would just never tell me they are pregnant and never look me up and tell me? They knew where I lived, and we met in the city at a bar that I go to always. If you can't tell, I'm a complete worrier and want to make sure that peoples opinions are that I sound insane and am worrying for nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): "if you didnt cum inside her its highly unlikely and yeah some people are just like that but if shes that type of girl she wouldnt even know who the father is anyway."
If she is that type of girl- you're that type of guy... It only takes one unprotected encounter to get pregnant- and it can happen without you being inside to finish. The chances are slim that she became pregnant, but if you're concerned try to find out. If you want to be a responsible person in the future don't have unprotected sex with strangers.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (24 February 2011):
 A year and a half later, you're just now worrying about this?
Do you even know her name? Perhaps you could Facebook her just to check up, or maybe you two have mutual friends?
I would like to think that if there was a chance she was pregnant, then I'm sure she would've said something back then. However, you do see on the trash talk shows, sometimes on here people discovering they have a "love child". There's really nothing you can do..Maybe try to track her down and check up on her to put your mind at ease.
Other than that the only thing you can do is push it out of your mind. There's more important things to worry about such as wedding planning.
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reader, Kilcardy +, writes (24 February 2011):
I think it was Mark Twain who once said, "I've lived through some pretty terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened." Stop worrying so much.
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (24 February 2011):
Yes, it is possible to have happened to you, or someone in your situation. Yes it is possible for someone to have a child, or an abortion, and not tell you. Yes, it is very unlikely that any of this has happened to you in your case.
The only way for you to find out more information would be to track the girl down. However, I think its safe enough to assume that she would have contacted you and said something to you if she had fallen pregnant.
Worrying about this, and many things that people worry about, have no impact or connection to reality. Your worrying of this possibility does not change anything, and only affects you. You could choose to worry about many things, about the prospect of getting hit by a bus, or getting fired, or someone dying, and worryiers do worry about different things all the time, but realise that it changes nothing to worry about something. Know also that worrying about something is a choice, you can choose to give something your attention, or choose not to. This is also the thinking behind the saying "there is nothing to fear but fear itsself".
Worrying about things that are actually happening, in reality, right now, are useful for our survival. Most other concern is unnecessary, and gets in the way of taking positive action. Remember that this is a choice.
Good luck.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (24 February 2011):
Of course it's possible. She could even have no idea who the father of the baby was. Supposing there was a baby. Or she could have chosen not to mention it at all. She may have cheated on a serious boyfriend and make him believe the child was his.
Now, you may ask yourself what the chances are. Chances are you would know by now, if there was a baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): Mama's baby.
Daddies' maybe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): if you didnt cum inside her its highly unlikely and yeah some people are just like that but if shes that type of girl she wouldnt even know who the father is anyway. i doubt you'll be looked up and dragged on the maury show. also if she was she couldve aborted the baby too but i honestly dont know what to tell you bc you didnt use protection so it is possible but if you didnt cum then no there wouldnt be a baby anyway
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): Are you able to look her up?
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