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writes: My guy friend, Kyle (not his real name) is being picked on, I'm not sure why. But its getting of out hand. Today Kyle and me were talking at school, then it happened, those guys came up to him and pushed into a locker. He started bleeding, I didn't really know what do, then took him to the nurse's office. When the nurse ask him what happened he said he "tripped" on some pile of books. Kyle doesn't want to go the principal because he's scared that something worse might happen than a bleeding nose.My question is: Could I have done more to help him? Cause I felt really bad just standing there and not knowing what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo the other day at school. Kyle and me were talking then it happened, those guys (the same ones) came up to him and pushed into a locker again. I had enough and when saright to tell the principal and told. Later that day with Kyle (hes so scared that something might happen if he walked home alone) the bullies pushed Kyle in the bushes. Was there more I could have done?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): A good idea might be to go to a school counselor yourself, and talk about your situation of feeling like a powerless bystander to the bullying without naming any names at first. You can ask the counselor give you an idea about what procedures exist in the school to stop and prevent bullying.
Also do some reading on the subject:
http://www.amazon.com/Bully-Bullied-Bystander-Preschool-School-How/dp/006001430X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1217864182&sr=8-1
There are LOTS of books about dealing with bullying. This isn't a new problem so neither you, Kyle, nor the school need to reinvent the wheel. Effective ways exist of dealing with bullies and your friend needs to learn about them (though many work best with cooperation of adults.) You're a good friend and with a bit of help from grownups I think you'll be able to help your friend.
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (4 August 2008):
 The reason he is being unreasonable is because he is either scared or even ashamed. You should tell a trusted adult about this, it needs to stop and the only way it will is if you tell someone.Bendy xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo talked to Kyle about the abuse he's suffing And he disagree that he need to tell someone about what's going. Why is he being so unreasonable? Should I tell anyway?
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reader, BethyBoo +, writes (4 August 2008):
 talk to Kyle and tell him that he needs to tell someone about this bullying and if he still doesnt want to then you should. couldnt they get charged for this bullying?
i dont blame him for being scared but its something he should do and you should be there with him :)
and no i dont think you could have done anything more in that situation as you might have gotten Kyle and yourself into more trouble.
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reader, BendychickP +, writes (4 August 2008):
It's good that you care, sometimes that is the only thing to do. It is best not to get involved unless you have to, because you might end up getting your friend hurt more. You need to talk to Kyle about this, and if he still doesn't want to tell anyone, I think you should. If proper action is taken, those bullies will never even come into contact with your friend again. Take it from me, I've been bullied alot, it is always better to tell someone. Best Wishes,
Bendy xx
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