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writes:The other night i had a great blind date. There was lots of laughter and chatting, the body language good, her pupils dilated and lots of hair touching.She even talked about what to do ' Next Time' and stayed longer than she planned, as we was heading off to a meal with colleagues.Given this good vibe i followed up with a message the next day asking ' 'lovely to meet how did the meal go?She replied hours lately saying ' great thanks, enjoy your weekend( No real warmth like txts before date)and no questions about me, the evening or a future date.I then waited and suggested lunch next week if she was free? She replied ' not free then, i'm getting my hair done'. Again, no warmth or even a 'hi'Obvioulsy she's not interested but why say 'Next time' on our date. Why stay longer?I'm so confused. I haven't replied to her ' decline' yet, shall i? Is she playing hard to get or not interested? Why the change etc etcany advice appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, greenman +, writes (10 April 2011):
greenman is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advise folks. I will just try to move on. Normally, I wouldn't follow up so quickly but I thought the signs were good. The ref to ' Next time' I thought was the green light. Maybe she thought the follow up was needyI guess if a girl likes you, she likes you even if you don't follow the dating 'rules'. This one is not interestedthanks again
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reader, Advice_man  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 That is funny so my friend, I am in the same situation! My date as well, went great...(actually it was our second date) 3 hours dinner chatting and laughing. Mine said too "Next time". Mine called me once during the past two weeks. Well, women are strange and unpredictable. I made my moves, I made it clear that I am interested. I am not calling again or texting, i will leave it upto her. Maybe she responds but maybe not. That's life! Best wishes. Let us know what happened.
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reader, sneha09  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 I think she is not interested,so I will suggest you to stay back and hope you find someone who will like you too.It happens many times when on a date everything seems to be perfect while things change after that from the other side(may be because that very person had thought about the date later on and found it was not what she wanted to have).So better don't ask for a date anymore or anything else unless she shows some interest at least from her side.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): Huh? Since this was a blind date, can you talk to the person that set up up? See what they think, or see if they can get some feed back.
Sounds like she was trying to be "nice", except leading you on isn't nice at all...
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