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writes:okay so me and my boyfriend have been dating off/on for 5 yrs! and we've been talking about sex alot and he has condoms but me and him are prolly ganna have sex this weekend. he wants me to give him a BJ but ive never done it b4, my brothers gf said she said the 1st time she gave 1 (2 my brother)she gaged! i really want to give him a good BJ but dont no how! so how? also the first time i had sex it lasted like a few min. and the 2nd time the guys ____ was so small i couldnt feel nothin..lol. so how do i make sure im doin everything right and no if he likes it!! 1 more ?, is it weird or a turn off if a gurl dont moan durin sex or if the guy fingers a chik? please help im soo confused and clueless!! please and thank u
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 O.K. first off, if you boyfriend is inexperienced as you are then you have nothing to worry about.
The best thing to do is buy some lubricant ( KY Jelly or whatever) have this ready when you are making out.
When you get his pants down gently grab his penis and put a dollop of the lubricant on the tip. Then gently massage the tip of his penis using the palm and fingers. Then run your hand up and down the shaft each time ending up massaging the head( he will be hard by now! ) this is what the folks call a handjob.
Use the same principle for a blowjob, but concentrate on the head, the shaft is like the depths of the vagina, nowhere as sensitive as the top part :) so all you really need to do is use your tongue around the tip of his penis and combine this with a sucking motion ( like you would doa lollipop!:)
As for sex, you should never pretend to do anything. If you are not a moaner then talk to him while. the worst thing to do is be silent , all that does is make the guy think he is not satisfying you ( you see we worry about our performance as well!). So if you cant moan then just tell him how much you like it, guys love when girls talk dirty during sex- its a huge turn on for us. Say things like "your big wanger is filling me up", be bold and brave and exagerrate, the easiest way to a man's heart is through flattery, you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
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