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writes:Hello!I have a question that hopefully the community can provide some insight. A friend of mine recently became single. Yes I have feelings for her. I first told myself that I would be a friend first, feelings come second because it's the right thing to do, in my opinion. So I started talking to her. Usually when friends both males and females go through break ups, I try to keep contact with them. Probably a bad thing. So I did the same with this one. I sent her a message one day, didn't respond. I sent another message a few days later, and then about three weeks later. I think she knows I like her and all, which leads me to believe that she is ignoring me on the purpose that "Wow, he's trying to pick me up after I broke up". Which is NOT my intention. I will someday tell her how I feel. But now isn't the time. My question is, am I over thinking this? Perhaps I'm thinking like this because I want to? Her phone is not broken, which I have concrete proof.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all of your replies. I will be seeing her at school in the fall, so I figured I would just wait then, I guess. I'm very hesitant in sending another message because I want to avoid the last three results lol.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 I'd say you are overthinking it.
I don't think she has made so many assumptions about your reasons for contacting her .
I think, more simply, either she just is not interested in you and does not want you give you any "in" by replying your messages ( which, btw, is very rude, but not all young girls are worried about social finesse ). Or she is still so wrapped up in the post- break up feelings that has no heart for conversation with anybody.
I'd say, give it ONE more try in a couple of weeks ( in case it's just post break up blues ) but if she does not answer - then stop , it was not in the cards.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): I wouldn't say you are over thinking it, she is clearly ignoring you on purpose. Don't worry about the 'why' that may be, the point is she isn't interested, I know that seems harsh but she would have replied if she wanted to, especially within three weeks. you have to move on, or alternatively, wait until she does contact you. (do not send another message to her unless she does)
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 Hey. Well she has just been through a break up, so perhaps she just wants some alone time right now as i am sure you are aware breaking up with someone you love can be an extreamly rough time and painful expeirence.So she might just be trying to recover from it and then will get back to you when you she feels ready.Unless you have made it extreamly ovbious in your messages that you have some feelings for her, or perhaps you told someone you have feelings for her and they might of told her and she has a reason to keep her distance then i really would stop worrying about this, there are loads of different reasons she may not of replyied.The message might not of got through, she could of changed her number or simply just kept her phone off. Continue to send her the odd message every now and then, and if she still doesnt reply rule out all the possibilitys before you think she may of falling out with you for whatever or so reason.
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