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writes:Hey guys, I need some advice.I know I'm not being paranoid, but I had a friend who I was good friends with and I helped him with a hell of a lot. He's still working in my company but, now he has distanced himself. Something doesn't seem right. He says everything is fine, but he used to call loads before, and now hardly ever. He's working with a new guy who he says isn't like working with me, but his behaviour tells me otherwise. He had a lot of personal trauma and at the time I was there for him 24 hours. I do really like him more than I should, and please, I'm not paranoid, but if he doesn't want to keep contact, I'd rather he just say so, but something is not right. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (26 January 2011):
 As a friend ONLY to you, but you don't speak for him. Even if you made it clear, I still bet he developed some kind of crush on you. Because you were so clear this was just a friendship, he decided to separate himself from you to hopefully get past those feelings and be able to keep you as a friend.
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reader, PortOr +, writes (26 January 2011):
 I agree with dirtball.... I think he has feelings for you and many a times men try to conceal their feelings for the girl - especially if they [men] are scared of losing the relationship and try to be away. Ask him out for a dinner casually and see what he gotta say. My bet is that he wont agree immediately as well... Just be patient for him to get back to you but make sure that you stay in touch with him and there is nothing wrong to ask him out ....
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): well i definitely did not lead him on !
i told you that we were good friends. YES i did like him more as a friend but kept it platonic. i have been there for him through thick and thin as a friend ONLY . he knows this but as i said only distanced himself after moving yet before was in constant contact always !
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (25 January 2011):
 Men are easy to understand, unlike women! I am sure you are not telling us everything, something must have happened that made him to distant himself. Give us more information. Perhaps you lead him on or something and now he lost his trust in you.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (25 January 2011):
I suspect that he developed feelings for you that he's now trying to get over. If you like him, you should ask him to go to dinner sometime. There you can lay your cards on the table and see how he reacts. Good luck!
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