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writes: Please help me. My friend A told me she was seeing a friends husband B a couple of months ago but now its all finished. She is married and has four children and my husband and i were good friends with her husband and her. Problem started when a group of mums she hangs around with started to ignore her, she was very upset and i tried to console her. I told her that one of the other mothers in the school had mentioned to me that someone from her circle of friends had said that they thought she was messing around with B and maybe that was the reason why she was being ignored. my friend thanked me, however she got drunk and approached the woman who had said she was messing around with B and all hell has broken out, she told this women that she got the info from me and i am now being contuinually harrassed by these other mums. I have told everyone i do not want to get involved but people will not listen. I told this friend A that if people continue to hassle me taht i will have no choice but to tell them what she told me. She has said that she will deny everything but i cannot carry on with my life because noone will leave me alone. Today i received a telephone call from B (the man who she said she was seeing) he has denied everything saying that they are just good friends and requested that i lie to his wife if she approaches me. I told him i could not do this and that i would have to tell his wife what i was told. I am so damn confused i dont want to split anyone up there are young children involved but neither do i want to carry this burden round with me. I am having panic attacks not sleeping and this mess is really taking toll on my health. Please help me and tell me what i can do should i speak to both parties and their spouses. Please please help.
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reader, mande97 +, writes (29 November 2006):
mande97 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for responding i am so glad you could take the time. I will not say anything even if anyone now phones me or stops me i will say nothing. I am a little concerned that some of the mums can be quite aggressive and a lot of people are now not talking to me. I was going to say something but your advice has given me the strength to stay silent and keep going i really really thank you!!!!
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reader, pica +, writes (29 November 2006):
I sympathise, you are caught in the middle of something you haven't caused. I think you should not talk about it at all and if anyone hassles you tell them you're not getting involved. It sounds like whatever you say you'll be accused of something so best to say nothing. I guess that will be hard but I think the more you say the worse it will get. Let them fix their own lives, you have done nothing wrong. What happens is not your responsibility, just stay out of it. Maybe time to meet some new friends... good luck.
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