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writes:I made thee biggest mistake of my life! I've never had a real relationship up intell this point and I love him with all my heart! I cheated on the only guy I've every really cared about, with his best friend! I know that sounds soo bad! I dont know what to do I know I messed up and broke his heart! the worst part is I only kissed him but his friend told him we slept together! of course he believes his friend I dont know what to do at this point everyones telling me to give it time let him think about everything but I'm scared I lost him! It's such a hard thing to forgive someone after doing something like this even harder when it was two people you loved! someone tell me what to do!
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reader, slightlyconfusedhusband +, writes (8 September 2010):
To be completely honest with you, from my experience in the navy with so many guys i know whos wives/girlfriends cheat on them while on deployment, it will be more of a pain for both you and him than it's worth for either of you. Ive known women that can forgive, completely, a guy that has cheated. I have never known a guy that can. even if he takes you back it will be very likely that he never forgives you or trusts you again. He will be constantly worried that you are/will cheat on him again. You will likely fight alot, every time he sees you look sideways at another guy. He will be controlling and not let you go out with friends without him.even if you do everything you can to be forgiven it will not likely happen. If you do try, good luck. If he lets you try, good on him. However it is probably best for both of you to call it quits and try again with someone else.
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reader, rcn +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Some lessons are learned the hard way. Whether you kissed or had sex, cheating is cheating. If he gives you a chance down the road, he'll treat lightly, because of being afraid that what happened this time, may happen again. I agree with your friends to let things cool down. Heated conversations don't solve anything. let him know how sorry you are, but then it is his choice if he decides to give you a chance or not. Whether or not he does, don't repeat this mistake.
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