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writes:Hi . I am in a dilemma . I am a professional single Mother . Knew my male friend for sixteen years and knew that he was in a " marriage of convenience " as he and his wife both care for their son with additional needs , who is now twenty three years old . The male friend and I became emotionally closer and began a love affair a year and a half ago . We have tried to stop , but we emotionally are so close and have admitted we love each other . Obviously it is not straight forward and we never set out to hurt anyone . I am also close to his Son . Can you help ? Good wishes to all x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): your affair is just so wrong and you are wrong, wrong, wrong. you are a single parent, why do you want his wife to be one too? you have stolen this man from his wife and his special needs son. you have stolen and taken something that is not yours in the first place. can you not see this. you know his son and you know how many people will be hurt by your affair when it gets out, yet you care less for anyone else. you and your lover, have you no guilt, remorse or does anyone else not matter.
do you think it is easy to take care of s kid with special needs, no matter how old that child will be , he will need both his parents. you are utterly selfish, in the name of friendship, you have helped yourself to another womans husband. shame on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): it shouldn't matter how his marriage is, that only helps you justify what you're doing, which is helping someone cheat on their wife.
You do realize once that they walked down the aisle together and promised each other that they'd love each other and take care of each other through thick or thin. They even had enough love to have sex with each other to create a child, and shame on this guy to use his son's disability to justify cheating on his wife and shame on you for enabling that.
I'm sorry, I just don't get how you can think your love is so real when he is still married. If he was completely into you, he'd divorce his wife and be with you. The fact that they have a child with disabilities shouldn't matter because the status of parent's relationship shouldn't effect whether they are good parents or not. You can be just as involved as a parent separated as long as both parties are on good terms and allowing the other to help out. If there isn't any love left in his marriage then I don't see any reason why this wouldn't work out.
but the fact is you're helping some guy cheat on his wife. He is using his child as justification for his bad behavior. If he cheated on her with you, why wouldn't he cheat on you someday?
also...if he is not planning on getting a divorce then you're not getting all of him. He is going home to her, not you. Its a sad truth to face but you NEED to face it.
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