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female
age
30-35,
*tellaforstar
writes:Hi folks, this is making me upset while i'm thinking about it but i can't get my boyfriend to stop sneakily watching porn. It's so upsetting because i lost my virginity to him but that doesn't mean we don't have amazing sex. We play lots and i honestly have done every single thing that boy has ever asked. Porn itself doesnt bother me but when we're so playful together and i am literally out of the house for like four hours a day i find it insulting that the first thing he does is watch a bunch of disgusting women with gangbangs and stuff. I find it excessive and insulting. The thing is... i've spoken to him about how upsetting i find it and he agreed not to watch it. But i thought that was unfair and said we should watch it together... which we do. This morining infact. And i left for a short shift and come back to cummy hankies and gangbangs in our history. I love him so much but i don't know how to stop him being so deceitful about it. It's ridiculous and even more ridiculous is that i've cried about it too many times for me to want to broach the subject anymore. Plus, it's putting me off porn too because i just feel disgusted, when i was so open to anything before. Basically, i've told him i'll be his pornstar, which hurt the most since i dont seem to be enough for him.. all suggestions are welcome. Thanks.
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reader, malum424  +, writes (7 May 2009):
 Well it might just be the sneaking around is turning him on.The whole 'Oh I Should be doing this which makes it naughty and turns me on.'Try asking him why he likes gangbang porn so much. Plus I'm not being mean as open as you are with him sexually you just can't humanly fulfill all his fantasies nor should you want to. Just talk to him about it's really is the only thing you can do.
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reader, louise100 +, writes (7 May 2009):
You'll have to be honest a lay the law down, you dont have a problem with it, its his attitude that is the problem.
Tell him how hurt you are and that he risks ruining your relationship as you feel he is not being honest and going behind your back.
He is probably still a bit immature so you will have to be firm on this and tell him straight or of course he will continue to do it.
If he wont break his habit then you may have to reconsider your relationship and if this is a deal breaker for you or not
Good luck
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