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writes:I am just wondering the possibilities of getting pregnant by putting sperm in yourself around your ovulation... My girlfriend and I want a baby.. we are trying to take the cheap way my brother is donating the sperm..
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reader, val709 +, writes (5 August 2010):
Well, let me start by saying I'm sorry you had to deal with the uninformed people in the world on here! My partner and I are currently researching this process ourselves, but there are many articals online about the proper tools and such needed to do an at home insemination. I wish you and yur partner the best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): im not really sure..but are you sure you want your brother to be the father of your baby or your g/f's baby?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionfirst of all the way the situation is being handled and it involves 4 people noboby else.. i asked a question for an answer not for other questions or to answer about an aftermath... like i said it will only involve 4 people and they will know what all is involved......
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 April 2008):
 Yes, Spunky, I won't answer your questions anymore. Not because you asked, though. It's because it would be a waste of my time.
This is the message you sent to me a short time ago:
you need to leave me out of your misgivings I came looking for an answer not to be belittled.. do me a favor and stay away from my question and act you age you ignorant little man...
This was my reply:
Would you please tell me what your question was? I have a hunch that you were the one who said I wasn't normal.
You didn't reply to my message. You just posted the last update. This one:
look dude don't respond to my questions anymore I didn't come here to be belittled. U obviously have issues.. leave me out of them please...
If you had not made any comments, nothing would be happening. I don't have a clue who you are, and, frankly, I don't care, either.
You wrote your question in an ambiguous manner. At least another person in this list thought she saw the same thing I saw. I found your question odd, but answered in an emotionally detached manner. I'm not here to preach my gospel to the people, but to give opinions that might help them with their lives.
In case you haven't heard of this, semen banks exist for a reason. You don't know if the "donor" had any transmittable diseases. AIDS is the first to come to my mind, but there could be many others. Semen is screened to remove this doubts and make sure the receiving person will not be giving birth to a child with congenital deffects.
I assumed this was why you thought about your brother as donor. I thought you were reasonably sure that he didn't have any transmittable disease. But you never know who is posting what. Just in case, I warned the "anonymous female" about this risk.
I also thought that it might occur to you to "store" the semen somewhere, in case your brother didn't masturbate on time. A little improper storage would make the semen infertile.
I did all this, I gave you an answer, and got called abnormal.
The heart of my being upset is this: would you define "normal", please?
I will tell you more things you will dislike. I'm sure I will be getting a lot of hate mail, but so be it.
I also pictured what the "procedure" will be. If your brother were to have sex with your partner, that is, if he were to have sex with his sister-in-law, then you wouldn't be asking about the syringe. You're using the syringe because your partner and your brother won't do anything as abnormal as having intercourse. Penis and vagina, that's abnormal. You will use a syringe instead. He will masturbate, will ejaculate somewhere, will collect the semen in a syringe, will remove the needle (I hope), and will inject the semen into your partner's vagina. Perhaps you will be somewhere near the "place of conception", to share the happy moment. If she is not pregnant in six weeks, I assume the three of you will be repeating the procedure, as many times as necessary.
When the baby is born, he or she will be the biological child of your partner, and she will be his or her mother. He or she will be the biological child of your brother, too. Only he won't be called father. He will be an uncle. You will be the biological aunt of this baby, but you will be his or her mother. I assume, again, that the baby won't call you "aunt", and won't call your brother "father".
There is another reason why sperm banks exist. Having a child is not just bringing him or her into the world. People have feelings and "abnormalcies", too, and the donors remain anonymous so that emotional issues won't arise. You are neglecting this, because your thoughts are not on the baby, but on you and your partner. You want to have a biological child and that's it. Adoption is abnormal. Using a syringe to conceive is not.
By the way, I don't find your brother a nice person, either. For him, the birth of this child won't mean but a little masturbation. I assume you're not asking him to provide for the baby's education and food. That is for you two to cover; he will simply "donate" the goo. He is modern and understanding, not a little ignorant like me.
Now I'm clear about this: if you say something is normal, then it is. If you say something is not normal, then it's not.
Just so that I don't get unfairly accused of hating homosexuals or lesbians, but, way more importantly, just so that other people who will read this post don't get misled, let me tell you that recently I worked with a very smart Englishwoman who legally married her girlfriend in England. Where I live, same-sex marriages are viewed as "abnormal", by the way. For your information, we're like 500 million abnormals. But, I will go back to my story. These two lesbians have a daughter, a lovely little blondie. They thought this through and found a gay man who wanted a daughter. And that's because gay and lesbians want children, too, just like heterosexuals. Well, they didn't marry, and they didn't use a syringe. The man slept with the woman, she conceived, and the girl is his daughter, with surname and all. She calls him "daddy". She also has two mommies, and calls them "mommy", too. It didn't cost them a penny, the man was healthy, and, by the way, helps with the expenses. He has a daughter and so does the lesbian couple.
I won't be answering your questions anymore. Just make sure you identify yourself as "spunky". Or mark your questions specifically requesting that I have to keep my distance from you. I will be glad to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionlook dude don't respond to my questions anymore I didn't come here to be belittled. U obviously have issues.. leave me out of them please...
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (18 April 2008):
I have to take this personally. And I believe in using the deadliest weapon in the arsenal if I can, so I will go for the jugular vein here. Many people wouldn't think that your post would come from a normal person. If we talk about "normal" and "abnormal", well...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): Yes you can. But be careful about the emotions involved. How involved will your brother want to be, if he finds he is a biological father. Maybe the three of you could discuss this, as another person's life - the baby's - will then need to be considered.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (18 April 2008):
Turkey basters do work.
I must admit the way you wrote it, it did sound like you were the one trying to get pregnant with your brother, but I read your follow up below so I'm glad that is cleared up haha.
I disagree STRONGLY with Madflash and his comments on "gay people only want kids to make them feel socially accepted" (Eh?!?!?!?!?!) and understand completely how you would want to have a child with the woman you love.
However, unless your girlfriend is extremely broody and desperate to go through the whole pregnancy and childbirth thing, why not look into adoption? There are lots of babies looking for new loving homes, especially abroad in China and India.
I notice you live in America and so the laws maybe a bit backward when it comes to gay adoption, but I think it's something to consider.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, madflash +, writes (18 April 2008):
 It depends where you inject it. Try the VAGINA.
But seriously, the answer is yes, of course you can get pregnant that way. It's called artificial insemination. Just read about the procedure on the internet. I'm sure you can find a detailed breakdown on how it's done, for horses, cows and maybe even people.
I think this is really ridiculous though.
There are so many foster children out there that need homes. You should at least consider that first, and then consider adoption. And if you don't feel you'll pass muster on what agencies require for being a parent, maybe you should look at that before you have one of your own.
People want children for a lot of wrong reasons, and I think lesbians and gays crave them to feel more normal and accepted, more integrated and attached to our child-rearing hetero-society.
Generally, most people, heteros as well, want them brand new and right out of the womb, much like they crave a new car off the lot and right out of the factory. I suspect there's a sense of ownership and exclusivity responsible for that. Those are fine feelings to indulge when you're shopping for a car, but I think they are petty and selfish motivations for creating children... especially in such a twisted, impersonal fashion.
I mean would you want to be told your life started with a hustler magazine and a turkey baster?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes of course it will b placed in my girlfriend.... why would any normal person think otherwise... eewwww
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (18 April 2008):
Of course, I assume your brother will donate the sperm to your girlfriend, not you. This is none of my business, but you know that relatives have a higher risk of transmitting congenital diseases to their children.
If a little semen in your vagina can make you pregnant, perhaps this method would work. I would assume this is the poor girl's copy of the procedure used in sexual intercourse. I suppose you're thinking of using "fresh" sperm.
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