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writes:Hi, Im starting to wonder if i am "in love" with my boyfriend anymore. We have been together for over a year and a half. In the beginning it started out really intense, my heart would beat really fast everytime i saw him and i would want to spend every waking minute with him. Now its the same but less intense and im starting to worry if the feelings are going away. This is making me sad becasue i dont want them to go away. Im also feeling torn about not spending enough time with my friends or family and spending too much time with him. I want to spend time with him, i would spend every second with him if i could but at the same time i still want to have friend time and family time because ive been away at college and havent gotten to see them as much. I dont know what to do. Is it possible to fall in love agian when you start to fall out? Reply to this Question
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Definitely spend time with your friends and family. You two can be even closer if you give yourselves time apart. As my Mother always says, "in a relationship, your world should become bigger, not smaller" - a.k.a. you shouldn't dwindle your world down to just him and you.
And, you've been together a long time. Honeymoon periods end. Just because you don't have those giant fireworks going off when you see him doesn't mean the relationship is any less wonderful. It just means that you're getting more comfortable with each other. And if you're out of love, perhaps you need to look at your relationship and evaluate if it's what you really want in your life right now - maybe this just isn't the right time, or he's really just not the right guy. But, if he is, it's completely possible to fall back in love, it just takes a little work. And when you see each other, maybe you won't get the accelerated heart beat, but you will get a sigh of happiness and security.
Don't worry so much, but definitely spend more time with your friends and family!! It will be healthy for you, and ultimately, your relationship. You don't want to resent him from pulling you away from what's important.
Good luck, sweetness!
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