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writes:my girlfriend and i have been together for almost 5 months and were in love however were both going to be busy and it scares her (we live about 30 mins away and different colleges) also with our new schedules we meybe can spend one day a week? more less with eachother. in the past i was always free, not working much, not going to school, and just wasting alot of time on the tv and always being broke since i was working about 12 hours a week and she would always complain im not busy enough and dont work enough she would also kinda support me financially and i felt bad. my girlfriend would be busy with work and school i would miss her like crazy since i was always free so i decided to pick up another job and go back to school. also my girlfriend does not drive so in the past i would always go out of my way to pick her up and drop her off just because i know she's so busy and i wanted to make it easier for her. and she would hate taking the train. she just got her permit and is going to take her license test soon but she says shes scared to drive all the way down to my house since shes so new. which to me seems a little selfish that when im busy and tired you wouldnt put in work to come and see me? well for me my schedule is work 4am-8am mon-fri, school 10am-12pm mon, wed, and fri, and work again(my other job is flexable since i've been there for so long i can pick my own schedule) she'll have class tues and thurs pretty much all day with a 6 hour break in the middle and work all the other days, mostly 12-8 but some morning shifts too. shes been looking at her schedule and doesnt think we can work because of our schedule. i told her i can even request a day off that we can spend together. how do you think i should handle this situation, i told her this is a mature relationship and we cant spend as much time together as we did over summer and the time we can spend will be that much more special and that i love you enough that i want to make this work. meybe there is no answer to my problems and its just willpower, but can im confused also. i love her very much and i dont even mind moving my schedule around to make this work but still get my shit done. anyone know how i should talk to her about this situation? please help
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (19 August 2008):
 hrm im in a long distance relationship and we only get to see each other every 2 1/2 months!! i wish it was once a week ide be so lucky..when things change it takes some getting used to but if you are both abe to put a day aside each then that should help and take it from their and see how you both feel..just reassure her that it will be fine and call when you have a moment or use the internet to talk their are plenty ways to communicate other than being psychical..and as for her driving she may feel odd driving too far on her own maybe once she has been passed a while see if she will meet you half way.. just be honest and understanding but be resonable.. hope that helps good luck aphexy xx
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