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writes:I have a question for anybody that would like to add their opinion.Can two introverts date and have a succesful relationship? I ask because I know that I,for the most part,have an introverted personality.Im usually lost in my own thoughts,or observing things.I can hold a conversation,but small talk is a chore.And im fine being this way.I feel that the guy im seeing is also an introvert,as he is quiet,hates attention being brought to him,and dislikes crowds,etc.Im not sure he views himself the same way,but it is what it is.I guess we have a comunication problem,atleast according to him.He recently asked me if I ever feel like we dont have much to talk about.And I look at it differently than him I guess.At first it was a little weird,because I never dated anyone as quiet as him.Now im used to it,and I dont feel that our silent times are uncomfortable.I feel like it is just who we are.But maybe an introvert needs an extrovert? In order for them to have a good balance in their relationship? Im just very curious on what people might think on this topic.Thank you! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): Forgot to add:
If you need any proof look at Bill and Melinda Gates
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): They are just like any other couple. They only communicate telepathically. lol...Honey, of course!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): I'm a firm believer if two people in a relationship want to make it work and put in the effort, then you can have a successful relationship. You mentioned that both of you are very quiet, but ask yourself since you both don't talk much, do you really know that much about him. To have a successful relationship you need to know everything about the person, which requires talking. Just make it a point to sit him down and share with him your concerns about your relationship and voice your opinion on whether or not both of your personalities will work. See how he feels and if you two are on the same page, great! If not then you might want to consider going for someone with a more extroverted personality. Good luck!!!
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (6 November 2009):
 My parents are both introverts, and it works well for them. When you're in an extrovert-introvert, I would think it would be trickier, because maybe... Extrovert would want to go out, bring their significant other, socialize and party the night away, while Introvert would be miserable. Introverts, I would think would offer some understanding to each other. And, I think that you and your fella can create balance in your lives - try to go out to dinner, or to the theater or zoo, somewhere that makes you be out with others... that will be balance enough.
The fact that you feel so comfortable together should be good enough for you. Clearly, this Introvert-Introvert connection really works for you two. Congratulations!
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