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*outhern_belle123
writes:Lately, I've been really lonely. All of my bestfriends are in amazing relationships. They always tell me how amazing it is to have a boyfriend, and that feels amazing. I want to feel that. I'm 15 and never had a boyfriend. Every time I start to like a guy, ether they don't like me, or end up hurting me.My friends say that its weird how I don't have one. They think I'm really pretty (even tho I don't see it) and could be a model, but that guys are put off by my attitude. I have a highly abrasive attitude.Also, when I meet a guy I like, I try to take it slow, but always end up macking(making out) with them, and then I do somthing extremly stupid, and they stop talking to me.Example : I liked this guy, macked him. Saw him with other girls, had a mental breakdown, then hacked his facebook.Can anyone help me?!I need to know what I can do to make myself more approachable, and to feel comfortable with myself.And can somone help me stop my streak of bad luck with guys?!Please and thank you!!!!
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reader, Southern_belle123 +, writes (5 October 2010):
Southern_belle123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all!! But does anyone know what I can do to be more.. I don't know, liked by guys?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Yes, you are after the guys who only want sex or something thereof. Sounds like youre a relationship girl and thats what your goal should be, find a guy with also wants one. How to do that? Network with your girlies. ask them to hook u up with a guy. Chances are their BFs know guys who are also looking for a girlfriend. Finding one on your own can be difficult because people around you know you best and know what you want.
Dont feel pressured to be like your friends. You are so young, relationships are a serious deal and should not be taken lightly. For example, dont get in one just because everyone else is in one and wanna fit in. If you do things soley for other people you will not be happy and the victim could be the guy you drag into it. Be careful, know what you want, and take your time and be patient with everything, not just boys, but also life. Good luck.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 "I'm 15 and never had a boyfriend."
Sounds normal. Guys your age are trolls anyway; I certainly was. Not that girls are much better.
"My friends say that its weird how I don't have one. They think I'm really pretty (even tho I don't see it) and could be a model..."
Ignore what they say. It's not weird. Further, female friends will always, always say you are pretty regardless of the truth. Seek out a straight male who is not afraid to hurt your feelings and get his assessment. Fortunately, at your age, a little effort goes a long way - if you aren't perfect, you can get pretty close.
"...but that guys are put off by my attitude. I have a highly abrasive attitude."
Sounds like you know what to fix. Try being sweet and feminine. Don't cuss or get too physically forward with guys, and try being nicer to everyone around you, especially people you don't like much.
"Also, when I meet a guy I like, I try to take it slow, but always end up macking(making out) with them, and then I do somthing extremly stupid, and they stop talking to me."
The stupid part is making out with a guy instead of taking it slow. I suspect you fear that they will find another girl if you don't. Trust me - the ones that do, are the ones who are least likely to date exclusively anyway, and the most likely to cheat even if they agree to it. Patience.
"...had a mental breakdown, then hacked his facebook."
This is the sort of thing that, if word of it gets around, will kill your chances. Next time you start to feel a very strong emotion of any sort about a guy, take a deep breath, count to ten, and think things through.
Have you considered the sort of guys you're going for? At this age, at your most hormonal, you are hardwired by evolution to seek risk-taking, promiscuous, narcissistic assholes. The more boring, stable guys are not as attractive at first glance, but they will treat you much better.
Try seeking out nicer, more stable guys, and eventually you will adapt to associate them with your mate-seeking instincts. Hopefully. Failling that, not having a boyfriend at this age is hardly the end of the world. Again, patience.
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