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writes:My fiancee and I have been trying for over a year for a baby, turns out he's unable to have any kids. We were thinking about going to a sperm donor. Does anyone know how this works?How much does it cost?Do they give any papers to take home?Does anyone know where these places are?Please help me! We really want a baby in our life and I want to experience the pregnancy. Answers please :)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 December 2010):
 You need to find an accredited and inspected sperm bank. This industry is regulated by the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) and rightly so. http://www.fda.gov/BiologicsBloodVaccines/SafetyAvailability/TissueSafety/ucm232876.htm
You can do a search for a registered semen bank here:
https://www.accessdata.fda.gov/scripts/cber/CFAppsPub/tiss/index.cfm
I would not recommend trying to do this on your own. The donor needs to be tested for a wide variety of communicable diseases and screened for potential genetic risks. Talk to your gynecologist for a personal referral in the area.
I think it will probably cost less than $1,000 for properly screened semen, but individual providers will have their own charges. You have to contact the individual distributors for information on their charges.
Good luck to you!
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (18 December 2010):
 Before you consider a sperm bank, you might want to consider a few other things.
First, your age. Why the rush to have kids, when the two of you are not even yet married? As a parent that had a child before we were financially ready, I can tell you that the stress it causes can challenge even the strongest of relationships.
The next thing is that according to the stats I have come across, most relationships that use sperm donors do not last. The mother can still bond with the child, but the father struggles for a number of reasons that may include the child becoming a reminding symbol of his infertility (and possibility his identity as a man).
Adoption might be the better route to go AFTER the two of you spend more time together, get married and get the rest of your lives settled.
-Frank
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