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writes:I really need your help.I had a relationship with a woman from work and it ended a few months ago. Since then she's kept her distance from me at work and has had a string of bad relationships (sometimes two or three at a time).In the last couple of weeks we've had to work very closely together (side-by-side in the same room) and I was dreading it. The last time we spoke she told me that our relationship meant nothing to her and we'd never really been a couple. I tried to keep on good terms but she didn't want anything to do with me.As it turned out, we got on pretty well. She gave me her new mobile number and we've been texting. Last week she invited me round for a meal with her kids and has arranged to come over to mine tomorrow night (she needs me to do some things for her on my computer). She's made it clear that we're only friends, but I found something that puts everything into doubt. I checked her phone last week. It looks like she's involved with two men at the moment (she told me that she wasn't in any relationship). The worst thing though was a message to a friend of hers, 'I felt the need to take advantage of someone, so I've invited **** round for dinner tonight then he'll help me on his computer next week. At least I won't have to shag him. Am I a bitch or what?'I'm now stuck that she's coming round tomorrow. I can't tell her how I know what she's said about me. I need to keep on friendly terms so that we can work together (we've got a meeting at work next week to discuss staffing levels!). On the other hand, now that I know that she's using me, I need a way to keep her at arms length. Any ideas?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): The problem is that the meeting at work is likely to result in staff lay-offs. The last thing that I want to do at the moment is to raise my head above the parapet. If staff levels are reduced I may even find myself working with her more regularly. At the moment I only work with her 1 day a week. I discussed the situation with my boss and advised him that as far as I was aware there was no reason that we couldn't work together. That was before I found out what she was really like.
I think I'd be happy to work with her, but I just need to keep my distance without making it too obvious. She is talking about moving on, which would make things a lot easier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2010): I'll be honest, you made a mistake by mixing it up with someone in the workplace. It's risky and not worth the risk because look at your situation. This could affect job performance, perhaps punctuality, or even office politics. My advice: Cut this evil bitch c*** out of your life. Request to work with someone else or be put on a different project and explain to them your situation. She's harassing, unstable, and makes you very uncomfortable to be around therefore it could affect your job. This shows respect for your company and what you do there. If they deny your request, appeal it. YOU cant be around her. Man up and tell this bitch off.
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