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writes: i wanna no wat i can do if my mum throws me out of home when she finds that im in love with a boy she only wants me to be friends with what can i do???? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (23 January 2005):
 Depending on your age, your mum may or may not be able to ask you to leave her house. You sound really young, 13 or 14, and if so, she can express her displeasure, she can give you curfews, and she can forbid you from going out with this boy, but it's highly unlikely that she's going to throw you out of the house.And why is that? Because that puts you in an even more vulnerable position and outside of her control. She won't do that because she worries about your safety and by throwing you out, she would be making you less safe, not more.That's what parents do: they worry about their kids and they want what's best for them.What you should be doing is worrying less about how you can sneak around and bypass your mum's edict about this boy and ask her what it is about this boy that she doesn't like. If she's able to list points of real concern, like he's dropped out of school and spends his time causing mayhem, or he's violent, or much older than you, then she has a point and you should be paying attention.If, on the other hand, she just doesn't think you're old enough to be going out with boys, you need to show her that you're level-headed, serious and mature, so Mum doesn't have to worry about you. You do that by not arguing with her about little things, doing jobs around the house without being asked, keeping your grades up, and following the house rules.When you show her that you're mature enough to go out with boys you like, then Mum will say it's OK and you won't have to worry about going against her wishes. That way everybody wins.Hope this helps.
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