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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my partner for more than a year now. I am 18 and he is 23. I have never had a problem with the age as ive worked in a bar for years and have always been into older men. Lately things have been rough. I began checking his phone as i had a gut feeling. i found he had been texting other girls but i was too worried to say anything as i didnt want him to know i was snooping. About 3 months ago i went to Australia for a weekend and checked his phone when i came back there were no messages but then i found a text log. The text log doesnt show what the texts said but just who he had txted in the last month. I was so furious i rang the girl, she then said she didnt know he had a gf and said she would stop texting him. Then a month ago i found him to be txtng her again even after he had said i have nothing to worry about, she is hideous etc etc. So yet again i rang her and she said nothing was going on but i should be cautious of him. He says he will throw his phone away but he shouldn't have to do that, i should be able to trust him. Now recently when i check his phone he has always deleted his log i ask him why he just says he doesn't want any random numbers on there as he loves me and would never hurt me. Im finding this really hard as he lives with me, and he is the most amazing guy ive ever met and just does not seem like the type to do something so stupid. He has told me he will move out many of times just for a few days to give me some space and have time to think but i never want him too. we have had huge earthquakes lately and would worry about where he is. He also complains about the fact im not into him as much or the fact we don't have sex as often. I don't know why i don't feel like having sex with him as much, maybe its because i don't have the trust that i used to. What should i do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2011): It sounds like you should get out of that relationship before things get worse..
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reader, Kilcardy  +, writes (16 March 2011):
Honey...do you need a roof to fall on your head? You are not the only woman in this "amazing" guy's life. I'm perplexed by your taking your anger out on the woman Mr. Amazing is texting. Shouldn't you be angry with him? He deletes his log because he doesn't want you to see it. He doesn't want you to see it because what's on there is proof he is in touch with other women. He doesn't want you to know he's texting other women because then you won't think he's so amazing anymore. You're young. Your whole life is ahead of you. Don't put up with this crap from any guy. It's just not worth it. What should you do? I say dump his lyin' ass and move on to greener and more truthful pastures. Good luck to you.
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