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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:This guy (guy x) recently caught my eye at a party, though I didn't feel too strongly about him. The day after the party I got asked on a date by one of guy x's friends, who I also know. I accepted the date, because the friend is a nice guy and I thought it might work out, and as I said, I hadn't felt that strongly about guy x at the time. However, after two dates I decided it wasn't to be, and called it off. I've seen guy x a couple of times since then and basically fallen head over heels for him. I thought something was going to happen between us at a party last night, but then all of a sudden he started ignoring me! I think his friend must have told him about the dates...he's having a bit of trouble moving on... and now guy x won't come near me. Can I save this situation and get my man? Reply to this Question
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reader, Pandora15  +, writes (4 May 2008):
It's guy code sadly. Most of them won't date a girl that their friends have dated. If he'll stick to that code, then I don't see a future with guy x. This is the case for many men, so by dating his friend you probably won't get a date with him. Guy X obviously won't go near you, so I doubt there's a chance of fixing it.He's a guy who's completely stuck to guy code, whether it's a good or bad thing he's obviously not the one for you. There may be another party or any event and you'll find yourself finding some other guy. X obviously doesn't want to hurt his friend by dating you, and that feeling can not be changed no matter what.Think of it with the other sex, what if one of your best gal friends went out with this guy two times and came over to gab about how wonderful he was, and you found you had liked him slightly the first time you saw him too. He dumps her and she's a crying mess and you are a close friend. The last thing you want to do is go out with the guy who hurt her as it would hurt her and make her feel betrayed that you went out with him when she still has feelings for him. You probably wouldn't do it, so he's not doing it.
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