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writes:I am a 22 year old college senior who is graduating in less than a month. I just got out of a 2 year relationship with a girl who goes to my college who supposedly decided that she never loved me, a few months before I was going to propose to her. This situation has left me devastated. I think it will be very difficult for me to trust anyone again in the future. I am a christian man who goes to a christian college and is involved in a church. I have found that a lot of christians tend to get married very young. Most of my friends who are the same age as me and most of my graduating class is either engaged, married or in a serious relationship, I will be graduating single and I feel as though i will never find a woman to share my life with. After college I feel like I won't meet as many people as I have the opportunity to meet now and meeting women will probably become more difficult. I have a strong desire to be married and to start a family and I feel like I have a lot of good things going for me. I am smart, kind, but I also know when to stand my ground, somewhat attractive. I have a lot of interests such as music and the outdoors, and I really enjoy working with children, which is why I am going into teaching as a career. I would like to think that these are traits that would make me attractive to a christian woman who is seeking a serious relationship, but I feel that I'm never going to find the right woman because it seems like every other young christian woman is already in a relationship or married. Many people tell me that I am young and that the right woman will come along in God's timing, but that seems hard to believe right now. Can I meet the right woman after college? Is there hope for me?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 We try to make life so complicated when the simple truth is once we put God first in our lives, everything else will fall into place.
That doesn’t mean that life will be a bed of roses, but it does mean that God will be there to help us bring order out of chaos.
Proverbs 3:6 says it this way: “In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
You are worried and upset about many things,but only one thing is needed. Put God first and let His will be done and not our will.
Learn to have more faith , trust and hope in God.Without which,you will waver and flounder in the walk with God.
Everything happens because God wills it to happen. You need to trust Him that he has better things for us and He will give us only in the right time. He knows what is best for us.
You should never lose your faith and hope in God and trust Him always .
Don't doubt God because doubt is from the devil.
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reader, Just Diana  +, writes (24 April 2010):
 hey! May I offer you this, that you in your ad really stood out as a man with so much going for him. Really, I am not just saying this.
Yes, there is hope and trust in letting go of the situation prayerfully. I do believe that through prayerful seeking and submission of Gods will that His plan will unfold your life. (afterall would you want it any other way?) Perhaps God sees and wants something so much more for you. I dont know. All I know is that someone will come along and the wait will be worth it. Throw yourself into your studies, God, life...you! Be the best friend to you right here and now. Your wife will be along sooner than you think and the time accounted for in between now and then will be moulding you into the very husband she needs! So exciting! And where ever your future wife is at this moment, know that God is still working with her. Be patient.....afterall you are a gentleman.
God will come through for you!
Try not to harden you heart with distrust. Truth is, we have at at times to be vulnerable to be viable.
I am sorry to hear / read your pain. I pray God holds you in the palm of his hand through this....
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reader, shortone1 +, writes (24 April 2010):
 you are going to be able to meet the women of your dreams. you can continue to go to a church and there are lots of people to meet at church. you just have to get ur self out there. trust me god always opens a door when a door closes a new one opens.i hoped i was of some help. god bless you.
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reader, ashes02simone +, writes (24 April 2010):
I feel the same way. It seems like all my Christian friends are married or are seriously committed, and I feel like the outsider.
I think my two year relationship is about to end, but we still love each other. I think God is telling me to let go because he will provide again. And if it is meant to be, we will meet again. It is all up to God.
This has only been a learning experience. Do not worry or envy about other people in your school. Your day will come when you will find that special person. God has plans for you before you finally settle down. It will be painful, but remember, God will not throw anything your way that you can not handle.
Trust me, I do not want my relationship to end. It's tearing my heart apart even thinking about it, but we have to remind ourselves God will reward us in the end. Our prayers will be answered.
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reader, selena547  +, writes (24 April 2010):
I definatly see that there is hope for you. Number one if you are looking for marriage and are comming out to be desperate then you will have a hard time getting a ring on a girls finger. Take your time, and they are right the right one will come along. but learn to live your life and appriciate what you have now in your life, your family, freinds and most importantly god. Stop TRYING. when you stop trying and become more at ease in be able to live in your skin you will see that it doesnt matter what you do for a living or how much money you make but that your personality and your traits will shine automatically. I suggest you give yourself the time you need to heal after this 2 year relationship find out who you really are, and as you heal you will soon discover there is so much out there that you hadn't realized exsisted ..
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