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writes:Hi,I have a question to do with my social anxiety disorder which is linked with depression.I can't explain to my boyfriend why sometimes it is that I get exceedingly angry for no reason and burst into tears complaining about being ugly and uncared about regularly. I used to be on venlafaxine anti depressants but have recently had to come off them for health reasons and now my mood swings are much more frequent. My boyfriend tries desperatly to understand how I feel and why it is that I get so upset but I find it hard to explain to him. He's lovely and I try so hard to tell him how I feel but I always stop as I feel that no one understands.I can't help but see other women as competition so I hang around with guys and rarely ever do I hang around with girls. I can't help it but feel such anger and jealousy to other women especially when they're around my boyfriend and I hate feeling this way because I know that a lot of the time they have no intention of hurting me and are not thinking that I'm lower than them... I think this has spiralled from being cheated on so many times in past relationships, but I always carry some kind of grudge against other women :SShould I go to counselling about this? I cry a lot thinking that no one can understand me and that I can't be helped :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): I know exactly how you feel as i am in the same boat as you. I tried counselling but for me it was not the best solution, but it could be different for you. I am sure your boyfriend does understand, he is probably just trying to absorb it all and think of ways to help. I know it feels like no-one understands, its how i feel now, and i am not going to give you false hope but saying that they do because i have no way of knowing, but it is a hard subject to understand, just try to remember that. If the counselling doesnt work, try writing letters or stories about how you feel, i get my emotions out through writing songs which dont make sense. I wish you luck in the future
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reader, Ifyoudontmind  +, writes (27 August 2009):
Hi,
so I am bi polar. I know all about mood swings, and believe me my wife has A LOT to deal with as a result of it. If your significant other is patient, they will just accept our bits of rage, or crying for no reason or screaming at things that havent happened.
As for your jealousy, try to let it subside, keep it mind yes other girls are going to be flirtatious. But , does he respond? and who does he go home wiht... YOU. Its a compliment, other girls think your guy is hot, but they arent worth his time, he doesnt care. He cares only for you.
Remember that .
-iydm
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): I personally think that counselling would be good for everyone, even if they think they have no problems.
I also suffer from an anxiety disorder, and have had a couple of different types of counselling, and they have been invaluable at letting me get by in the world. It is not a cure its hard work and exhausting and sometimes you feel its too hard, but it is so worth it.
You should ask your doctor or try to find a counsellor that does cognative behavioural therapy which i found really helpful.
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